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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Belen" data-source="post: 991622" data-attributes="member: 1405">My point is that if he is a good enough friend that you spend time with him outside of the game, then you should give the guy the benefit of the doubt.  You've never spoken to him about your concerns, then you met, behind his back, and have decided to kick him out of the group.Personally, I have a problem with that behavior.  Especially since you said that no one noticed it until she brought the matter up.  That just seems absurd.  A group of adults NEVER noticed that this guy acts out of line, then the girl brings it up and suddenly he is a bad person?Maybe he has no clue what he is doing to her.  And she IS young, which means that she is more sensitive to comments than adults would be.  Heck, the rest of you had no clue!And I do not think anyone ever advocated them getting together, just to say that maybe she had interested him.  If he has been a friend, and you make no attempt to salvage that friendship, then it places you in the wrong.  If you subscribe that all people are persons, then he has just as much right to talk things out as the girl who is uncomfortable.You should give him the chance to recognize that he has been less than tactful before shoving him to the curb.</blockquote>