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<blockquote data-quote="Sholari" data-source="post: 998005" data-attributes="member: 6059">Trust your intuition.&nbsp; When I get a strong feeling about something and I'm not sure why, it's usually right about 95% of the time.&nbsp; When I was younger I would often discount it.&nbsp; Over time I've learned to listen to it.&nbsp;&nbsp; It's an unfortunate situation but you guys are likely doing the right thing if so many people have picked up the same vibe.With most people open communication is really the way to go.&nbsp; If you feel this person is an actual danger to any member of the group, however, then look out for your best interest.&nbsp; Direct confrontation does not always work with all people.&nbsp; If this fellow is the vindictive type, he may take offense to that.&nbsp; Reschedule your game day to some day that you _know_ he can't game.&nbsp;&nbsp; Make up some reason for this.&nbsp; Perhaps someone could pretend to take pity on him and refer him to another group where he will not be a problem.&nbsp; Then after a month or so, switch it back to the original game day.&nbsp; There are probably some other ways to engineer the situation so he will leave of his own accord.&nbsp; You could temporarily disband the group and agree to meet back in three weeks minus one player (because maybe the DM got burned out).If that doesn't work then figure out how this guy is likely to react to confrontation.&nbsp; Some people respond to a concentrated front while others would gravitate to a low key tone.&nbsp; If it comes to it even get a restraining order.&nbsp; I really hope it goes well for you guys.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Sholari, post: 998005, member: 6059"] Trust your intuition. When I get a strong feeling about something and I'm not sure why, it's usually right about 95% of the time. When I was younger I would often discount it. Over time I've learned to listen to it. It's an unfortunate situation but you guys are likely doing the right thing if so many people have picked up the same vibe. With most people open communication is really the way to go. If you feel this person is an actual danger to any member of the group, however, then look out for your best interest. Direct confrontation does not always work with all people. If this fellow is the vindictive type, he may take offense to that. Reschedule your game day to some day that you _know_ he can't game. Make up some reason for this. Perhaps someone could pretend to take pity on him and refer him to another group where he will not be a problem. Then after a month or so, switch it back to the original game day. There are probably some other ways to engineer the situation so he will leave of his own accord. You could temporarily disband the group and agree to meet back in three weeks minus one player (because maybe the DM got burned out). If that doesn't work then figure out how this guy is likely to react to confrontation. Some people respond to a concentrated front while others would gravitate to a low key tone. If it comes to it even get a restraining order. I really hope it goes well for you guys. [/QUOTE]

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