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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Longspeak" data-source="post: 9533987" data-attributes="member: 7019284">I'm an old (middle-class, white, male, cis) gamer, and I've struggled for years with a TON of implicit assumptions and the general wrong-headed things I grew up with in the 80s. Most of us did. I thought I was one of the good ones because I never went out of my way to be one of "those guys." But so much is just... baked in. It takes work to overcome it. I like to think I've come a long way, but I don't kid myself that I'm perfect.But I see examples daily of folk who have never taken time to examine that thinking. There was a time I could make allowance for someone who never had the opportunity to reflect on the sins they visit one others. They help me realize I've evolved... at least a bit.And I think the gaming helped, at least for me. Especially but not exclusively as I started adulting in the mid-80s, I've had lots of chances to meet those implicit assumptions head on. In games, but also around the table.Today, I try to live up to it. I check in with players frequently to make sure I'm not stepping wrong, read other's writings on the subject, and generally to my best to make my games an inclusive space.It's all about respect... but it can be so easy to forget to show it... or even to know what is and isn't sometimes. And if someone slips but they're trying, I nudge them. A few times a nudge wasn't enough, and those folk aren't in my games anymore.</blockquote>