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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Harmon" data-source="post: 2352345" data-attributes="member: 24357">To me it’s not about the rude youths of today vs. the ones of yester year, its about rude people in general.  People not saying thank you, excuse me, please, etc, and or giving that look that is oh, so common around this area (if you have no idea what I mean the look is one where you feel your life is being threatened).I know that I am more then likely complaining about a minority here.  Perhaps my experience with those more courtesy and kind is lacking because of the way I am perceived.  As I implied I feel that people perceive me (sometimes) in the negative while I am trying to be perceived in the positive.  Maybe they think I am really an inconsiderate jerk at first sight and think that when I am nice to them that I am trying to get one over on them?  It would be nice to be able to see myself as others do.  I have seen myself on video and it doesn’t come across that way- maybe it’s a vibe?  Hell I don’t know.Another example of being rude- a couple years back I was coming home from San Jose air port where I had just dropped off my mom.  Sitting in snail slow traffic north of Morgan Hill for better then an hour I was pretty frustrated.  Traffic starts to pick up when I see the problem.  Parked on the other side of the road on the north bound side of the highway (on the fast lane side) there is a pregnant woman, her mini van has a flat, she had been trying to change the tire (but had given up), but she is very, very pregnant.  I pull over- on the fast lane side of the southbound, jump out, and jog up the embankment.  I introduce myself and ask a really stupid question- “do you need help?”She’s been crying, she’s trying to be tough, cause this stranger is here and she’s frustrated, and scared.  I got her to sit down, returned to my truck for a water (which she looked to need), then worked on changing her tire.  She was very thankful, told me that she had been there for two hours and no one would stop to help her.  “You were here before traffic started backing up?” I asked (recalling the I had been here about two and a half hours before).  She nodded- “I am the reason it’s backed up.”How many people could have stopped to help her?  How many women, kids, guys, were physically able to stop and help her in all that time?  I was no longer annoyed at the traffic, but rather the rubber neckers that just wanted to see the upset pregnant woman on the side of the road.  She gave me two payments for my kindness- a hug and a thank you, she was so happy she was crying.Its hard for me to see that and not think of those people as being rude, but they weren’t they were just living their fast paced lives and they could not consider how their in action was effecting others.Now something to consider- in todays world you can’t stop on the side of the road to help everyone, I know that.  Would I have stopped for a group of gang bangers?  No.  Is that rude of me?  Ya, but I have to consider my own safety and the lives of my family and friends (car jackers will take your registration, go to your home and….)I will be as kind as I can for as long as I can.Thank you for replying to my thread here, it makes me smile to know that I am not alone.</blockquote>

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