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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Hijinks" data-source="post: 2353613" data-attributes="member: 31094">I don't think I agree that the Internet and chat forums such as this are contributing overall to the rudeness in society. As an example of my opinion, I find that more often than not, the men that do not hold the door for me (and I don't expect men to hold the door for me because I'm a woman, but rather because I'm a human being coming up behind them or coming up as they're going out), are older men, in their 40's and 50's. For some reason, men of this age do not hold the door for me, or any other woman. I'm not sure why, I would expect men of this age - my father's age - to be gentlemanly, but they don't seem to be in my area anyway. Also, the people I've noticed who tend to not hold doors are not the type that I think are surfing forums and doing other things that people like us do. I personally surf a lot of forums; some I post on, others I don't. It's easy to assume everyone else does too, but my parents and other relatives hardly ever use the internet; people I know have families and consider themselves too busy. Not everyone surfs the net all the time like me. I think that, overall, Americans tend to be ruder than other nationalities. I don't say this to disparage Americans in any way; I am one and I'm very patriotic. However, I have noticed a tendency in the last 10 years or so that I've been back in the states, that Americans are me-me-me; we're always in a rush; most of us DEFINITELY don't like to be told "no," or that we can't do something right when we want to do it. We don't want to diet and exercise to lose weight because that requires effort and takes too long, even if it took 12 years to put the weight on; we want it sucked out RIGHT NOW. I think the rudeness we see in folks of all ages these days is in a large part due to impatience. Why do we think that our children need to do soccer practice, piano lessons, have an after-school job, AND do chores around the house?  Why do we always fill our weekends with so many errands and things to do?  Very few people tend to take time off to just stop, take a breath, hang out.  Everyone's in so much of a rush.  Me, personally, I usually spend Sundays hanging out, napping, maybe playing some games; I don't, however, have a family and can afford the luxury of relaxation.  I don't know if this makes me more polite because I'm not always in a rush to do things, but I think I would probably be less polite if I had less time to spare. The only thing I blame for rudeness is the American societal mindset that we always have to be go-go-go, have something going on, be doing something new, etc.</blockquote>

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