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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Rel" data-source="post: 2540896" data-attributes="member: 99">I could probably count on one hand the number of times I've ever spanked my child.  And when I did it I always hated doing it.  But I did it for a very good reason:  When I invoke "The Daddy Voice", I need to command instant and complete compliance with my orders.This is not because I fancy myself as some sort of iron fisted ruler over my kid.  It is for safety.  Kids have no concept of many of the things in life that are far more dangerous to them than a spanking.  It makes them innocent and sweet but also makes them a danger to themselves.To use an example, my daughter likes to trot out to get the mail with me and my wife.  One of the first times she did this, she got out ahead of me and despite my verbal warnings for her to stop, she dashed right out into the road in order to win our "race".  Thank God no cars were coming at the moment.  I swooped in upon her, grabbed her out of the road and back into the driveway where I deliered two firm and swift pops on the bottom.  She looked at me in total shock and I got close to her face and said (in the Daddy Voice), "When I tell you to stop, you STOP!  Immediately!"  Then I gave her a big hug and told her that I was glad she was safe and explained about the danger of cars.Was the spanking in response to this situation "lazy parenting"?  I don't know and I don't care.  I do know that it was effective.  Although she still loves going to get the mail with us, she never ever sets foot in the street and doesn't stray out of arms reach when we get near the road.I'd never consider spanking her for every minor infraction or misdeed.  But it is important for her safety that she obey me when I tell her in no uncertain terms what to do.  It seems that when all she has to fear is "time out" that she is much more likely to want to "negotiate" than to obey.So there's one father's anecdote.  Make of it what you will.</blockquote>

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