My wife thinks I was wrong.
So, from the point of view of the tools conversation - when a player has an issue with a topic, the GM has a choice. You either accommodate the players, or you tell the players your game will not be for them. From perspective of use of these tools, the only "wrong" choice is to tell the players you'll accommodate their needs, and then not do so.
Whether you want to play with folks who do not want inclusive content in the game is out of scope of this discussion.