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[Larry Fitz]

Using the Boston Gameday as an example, I counted no less than four couples there and none of them had the kind of problems that you're discussing. I play with three regular groups which contain in total 5 couples, and in all three the DM's SO is a player and no such problems... I realize this is anecdotal, but it does seem that trhe problem is specific to these people. Having a family can be a real burden on your gaming life, maybe offering to GM something is the answer. It would free up time for your friend, relieve him of the burden of a wedge that is currently being driven between his wife and his friends, and give her the opportunity to see why gaming is fun as opposed to what she is doing. Which maybe fun, but it's certainly not gaming. I feel kind of guilty now that I took your spot in Feng Shui, OTOH I really had a blast... So in order to make it up to you (and in real Wizard of Oz like fashion) I will come up to the Boston area and run a whole day gaming marathon for you and five other people. I'll bring a copy of Streets of Silver, and give it to the player who the players vote as best embodying what is fun about gaming. All you need to provide is a location (which I suspect if you don't have yourself, someone on these boards may volunteer) a preferred level of play in D&D 3E, and a group of prospective dates I can compare to my schedule. What do you say?

Edit: If you hit the lottery fly in Dragongirl, Horacio and Boothbey, that could make the game perfect!

 

[DDK]

Like I said, I'm sure that for some people it works, but in my experience it has always caused problems one way or another. And in this particular incident, she sounds like she is the main problem. It also seems as if the DM is... umm... how does one say this without offending Eric's Grandma? Under her thumb?

Your offer is a great deal. Sometimes I wish I lived in the states as there seems to be a lot more gamers available! Then of course I think about the lack of social security, medicare and the proliferation of guns and I realize gaming isn't THAT good

 

[Larry Fitz]

(/hijack)Hunh? We have Social Security, and Medicare..... or are you saying that Australia doesn't and you prefer it that way?(/hijack)

Tell you what Fourecks, since you've always seemed like a decent bruce on these boards, I'd be happy to run a game for you and your mates, I'll even run it nightly for say two weeks, if you cough up airfare and a place to stay, and I'll bring two, no THREE copies of our entire catalogue (Ok that's only three books right now, but that number should more than double within this year). And if you hit the sweepstakes you can bring in Hong!

The most convenient Airports for me are JFK, La Guardia, and Newark....

 

[DDK]

(complete, utter, unabashed and total hijack)

(/hijack)Hunh? We have Social Security, and Medicare..... or are you saying that Australia doesn't and you prefer it that way?(/hijack)

You have it; it's just not socially equitable like ours is

Tell you what Fourecks, since you've always seemed like a decent bruce on these boards, I'd be happy to run a game for you and your mates, I'll even run it nightly for say two weeks, if you cough up airfare and a place to stay, and I'll bring two, no THREE copies of our entire catalogue (Ok that's only three books right now, but that number should more than double within this year). And if you hit the sweepstakes you can bring in Hong!

Lol. International DM Extraordinaire! Depending on the response I get from a particular email I sent out last Friday... I may just yet take you up on that offer

Although me being a 'decent bruce' (assuming that means I'm 'ok') is probably a matter for debate, and hong and I would not a nice meeting make so he can come up with his own damn airfare
(/complete, utter, unabashed and total hijack)

 

[Larry Fitz]

The 'Decent Bruce' thing was a lame attempt to speak Aussie (in a Monty Python kind of way) and I'm sincere in my offer to both you and Dareoon.... You get me to Australia and I'll Dm till I drop... then I'll sleep till I wake up and start the whole cycle over again, long as I find a little time to take in a sight or two...

 

[Dareoon Dalandrove]

I'm sincere in my offer to both you and Dareoon.... You get me to Australia and I'll Dm till I drop... then I'll sleep till I wake up and start the whole cycle over again, long as I find a little time to take in a sight or two...

Hahahaha. If I had the money to get YOU to Australia I would already be there.

On a serious note though. We added a new member and he decided to run a OA game. The entire time from character generation to the end of the game "certain players" had problems with everything. There ac was too high, how could they hit me, how many hit points do they have, etc. It was bad for those of us that were playing but the guy who was running had it real ruff. The rest of us liked the game, so now when he runs we play somewhere else.


I'm going to carefully consider my options.

 

[Sir Osis of Liver]

I will come up to the Boston area and run a whole day gaming marathon for you and five other people.

Thanks Larry! That really cool of you to offer. Hopefully you and Dareoon can work something out. I'll be away, more then likely, but i'm always happy to see things going good for my friends.

 

[mythago]

The sheer amount of bullpoop she lays on him, has to make it difficult for him to get excited about gaming in general.

Presumably she isn't laying the bullpoop on him at gunpoint....my experience is that outside of truly abusive couplings, most people in this kind of dynamic are playing a game that takes two. Some folks just enjoy being the martyr.

 

[Sir Osis of Liver]

Presumably she isn't laying the bullpoop on him at gunpoint....my experience is that outside of truly abusive couplings, most people in this kind of dynamic are playing a game that takes two. Some folks just enjoy being the martyr.

I don't know if he's playing martyr or not, but he is a really easy going sort of guy. She just badgers the crap out of him and he gives in. I've seen her in action, she can be harsh.

 

[mythago]

Probably, but you know, it's my experience that people in these relationships are surprisingly resistant to having things improve, either because there's something else going on with the SO dynamic, or because they prefer it when their friends and SO are always at odds. YMMV.