Relationship revenge web sites

[JediSoth]

Nope. I don't have time for that sort of nonsense. I've dated women who've admitted to me that they had stuff they were keeping under wrap on old flames "just in case." With one exception, I always broke it off shortly thereafter. The one time I didn't...well, I often find myself wish I had ended the relationship before it came to its natural end. I try not to do that because I realize my life would be RADICALLY different now and there are many, many things about my life now I don't want to trade away.

In general, though, I've found those types of games are a sign of immaturity and I don't need that kind of malice in my life.

 

[HardcoreDandDGirl]

Ok, I think I would freak out if I found out a boyfriend ever did such a thing... now that I think about it how do I know if it has been done to me? I don't think there are any pictures other then those I have put up (Sexy but not nudes) but now I'm getting a little paranoid in mold age...

 

[Nellisir]

Not a snowball's chance in hell. Past behavior is a good indicator of future behavior and I'm not at all keen to have my dirty laundry posted publicly on the internet.

This. I don't necessarily care about having something about me posted online, but the sort of person who does that is a bit too vengeful and self-righteous for my taste. They'll do other stuff as well.

 

[Kramodlog]

This. I don't necessarily care about having something about me posted online, but the sort of person who does that is a bit too vengeful and self-righteous for my taste. They'll do other stuff as well.

Do you have anything to hide? I think that is the better question.

 

[Kramodlog]

I've dated women who've admitted to me that they had stuff they were keeping under wrap on old flames "just in case." With one exception, I always broke it off shortly thereafter.

Like what? You do not have to name names. Just share anecdotes.

I am very curious, the human mind is fascinanting and human behavior even more.

 

[Nellisir]

Do you have anything to hide? I think that is the better question.

Do you?

 

[Kramodlog]

There is plenty of stuff I do not want my familly and co-workers to find out about.

For some reason I am confortable talking about it to friends.

 

[Zombie_Babies]

If you were dating, and you found out someone you were interested in had previously posted "stuff" of their ex to a revenge web site, would you continue with interest in that person?

Bullgrit

I think you'd have to continue dating them, no? Hell, I'd ask her to marry me on the spot. Too much dirty laundry, man. If I piss a girl like that off I'll never be president!

 

[JediSoth]

Like what? You do not have to name names. Just share anecdotes.

I am very curious, the human mind is fascinanting and human behavior even more.

My first wife had a bunch (a plethora, perhaps? Maybe a multitude?) of photos of a guy she was with when we met. They were photos of a particularly salacious nature, none of which were SFW and I think depicted acts which were certainly morally wrong, if not outright illegal in some states. When she died, I wiped them clean. I had neither the desire to use them, the desire to revisit them, nor the desire to keep that stuff around out of some odd sense of nostalgia. I knew she had them when we got married, but there were a lot of red flags I ignored in that relationship for reasons I cannot fathom at this time (probably had to do with my self-esteem and a sense of desperation...maybe I DID settle...). There were additional things I discovered a year after she died which really colored my perceptions of our entire time together and embittered me toward her, things that I won't talk about here, but suffice to say, they were of such a nature that had I known about them when we were dating, we would NOT have been dating. Even now, 5 years after her death, I can still work myself into a rage thinking about them. It sucks not being able to get closure, but I generally don't let it get to me. Were it not for that relationship, I wouldn't have met the woman to whom I am currently married, and even if I had a time machine, I'm not sure that's worth sacrificing.

There was a woman I dated briefly (it was never exclusive and only lasted 2-3 dates) after my wife's passing who said she had stuff on her ex- in case he decided to be a jerk and she needed to put him in his place re: their kid. I don't recall the exact nature of the incriminating evidence she had on him. I broke things off later that week.

 

[Kramodlog]

Morally wrong? Go on.