DANGER DANGER
If the DM is struggling with 3.5 now, at 9th level, she needs to be aware it is only going to get MUCH WORSE. I strongly suspect that you guys are not going to have much fun.
My advice to the DM would be: look to wrap up this campaign with an exciting finale at 10th level, take a break, then start a new campaign beginning at 1st or 2nd level, using lessons learned (Eg: don't go over 32 point buy). She might like to consider E6; she might also like to consider Pathfinder which has somewhat better class balance than 3.5. Another good idea is to halve XP awards so PCs are in the 3e 3rd-8th level sweet spot for longer. And don't try to GM above 8th level unless she is very comfortable with a much more authoritarian style in terms of eg what sources are allowed.
If the DM is struggling with 3.5 now, at 9th level, she needs to be aware it is only going to get MUCH WORSE. I strongly suspect that you guys are not going to have much fun.
My advice to the DM would be: look to wrap up this campaign with an exciting finale at 10th level, take a break, then start a new campaign beginning at 1st or 2nd level, using lessons learned (Eg: don't go over 32 point buy). She might like to consider E6; she might also like to consider Pathfinder which has somewhat better class balance than 3.5. Another good idea is to halve XP awards so PCs are in the 3e 3rd-8th level sweet spot for longer. And don't try to GM above 8th level unless she is very comfortable with a much more authoritarian style in terms of eg what sources are allowed.