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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Ruin Explorer" data-source="post: 7365199" data-attributes="member: 18">It is the sort of behaviour somewhat delusional parents who don't the long-term impacts of their actions on their relationships with their kids definitely do, so I tend to believe you.My dad did a similar thing. When I was 12, because my brother and I spent most of our time playing on the computer (Atari ST, we also had a primitive PC and a Sega Master System), or playing AD&D, he took all our toys - dozens of Transformers (many amazingly rare in the UK, which of course he didn't know or care about), an astonishing amount of wonderful Lego (including tons of Lego Technic, which I still regularly used at that age), and a bunch of other stuff, again some of which we still did play with and was very cool, and he gave it all to the orphanage. My brother was 10 so it hit him even harder. My sister was much younger and never really got to play with Lego as a result.That isn't a joke or a metaphor either. It's literally what he did.Now, we got over it pretty quickly in one sense. Kids are resilient. He earned a lot and was never tight-fisted about cash, and he kept getting us new computers, new games, new RPGs. But you know what? Because he did this without asking, without warning, without discussing, without even an ultimatum ("This is going to happen!"), he permanently destroyed trust with us.I was watching TV last night and there was some scene where some character was really broken up about how she couldn't really trust her dad, and didn't want to lie to him (to essentially test him), and I thought "Well, I would do it in  a heartbeat". I love my dad. He's mostly a good guy. Do I trust him though? No, and this was the first time in my life I realized I couldn't trust him, not really, because he was willing to make arbitrary, essentially mean-spirited decisions without even a warning, let alone a discussion, let alone listening to us (we would have been fine with dumping about 70-80% of our toys - just not the Lego or Transformers, or a couple of cool spaceships).So I think you've made a very bad decision. Your son will get over it, but he knows who you are a bit better, and I think you'll find he's never going to trust you in quite the same way.</blockquote>

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