Stress!!

[Impeesa]

I've always found "pumpkin carrying" to be a very effective means of stress relief.
Seriously, when I'm freaking out over a deadline or work problem, I know I need to take some time out for a little R&R (adult or otherwise) with the wife.
Puts things in perspective, and counts as 30 minutes (or more!) of exercise.

Man, I was about to say the same thing. Supposedly it's even more effective for the women, though. At the, ah, culmination of the female's efforts, parts of her brain relating to things like anxiety and awareness completely shut down.

--Impeesa--

 

[nakia]

I found Getting Things Done by George Allen to be really helpful for me in getting organized and thus reducing stress. The basic premise is getting stuff out of your head (where it causes stress) and into a trustworthy system. The book gives you the system, which I find pretty simple and intuitive for the most part. I'm still struggling to compeltely implement the system, but even the bit I have integrated has helped me out a lot.

Example: the Two Minute Rule -- when you take something out of your "inbox", first ask yourself "Is it actionable?" (do I need to DO anything related to it). If it is, and you can take that action in two minutes, then do it then. That way it's out of your head forever.

Of course you may feel too busy to read the book, but I think it's worth a couple of hours of your time.

(Man, I feel like I'm the cult spokesperson or something, but it really did help!)

 

[reveal]

Example: the Two Minute Rule

I sure hope you and Tinner aren't talking about the same thing.

 

[Queen_Dopplepopolis]

UPDATE: Things may well get put on hold for a while. The Universe's grandfather is really not doing well and we'll probably be making a trip back to South Dakota this weekend for a funeral.

My plans to go places (campus and the National Archives) have been put on hold as my car won't start. I stopped at Safeway and, when I came back out, I turned the key, and it won't go. This is the second time this has happened. I took it into the shop before, and they said that there's nothing wrong with it... for some reason - when the vehicle has been running for a while and gets shut off, it decides it's not going to start for an hour or so. I thought it was my starter, but the mechanic says no, it's not.

So - while I should be arriving at home from completing two of my tasks - I am arriving home from a walk (which I suppose is the exercise part of my day), but am feeling even more overwhelmed than before.


ARG!! Now I'm sad *and* stressed out!!!

 

[reveal]

Wish I had some advice, but I don't so here.

 

[Xath]

I have three books here which may be of use to you in your Ethics paper.

Taking Sides: Clashing Views on Controversial Bioethical Issues
Case Studies in Biomedical Research Ethics
And a packet which is full of essays, papers, and resourses all about ethics. There's even a chapter on professions and professionals.

It's geared towards bioethics, but the chapter introductions have information that can be applied to any ethics. Since I live all of 5 minutes away from you, if you'd like to use any of them, let me know and I'll drop them off. It'll give me a chance to see your fancy new apartment.

 

[GlassJaw]

ARG!! Now I'm sad *and* stressed out!!!

When it rains it pours as they say. Looks like you've got a string of pretty bad luck on your hands. I would say think about contacting some of your professors and see if you can get an extension on anything. Family comes first IMO.

Good luck. :\

 

[Queen_Dopplepopolis]

I have three books here which may be of use to you in your Ethics paper.

Thank, Gertie. But - it's just a response paper for my Ethical Issues in the Professions class. Nothing to do with bioethics.

 

[Queen_Dopplepopolis]

Wish I had some advice, but I don't so here.

Thanks, reveal.

 

[Rel]

Stress is a part of life and you'll have to find a way to effectively cope with it that works for you at some point. BUT, do yourself a favor and try your best not to take on too much at once in the first place.

The fact is this: You're young, you're married (to a pretty great guy from what I've seen), you're in school, you're working. That's starting to sound like a lot. Could you take one less class than you're taking and still be making progress toward your educational goals? Could you work 5 less hours a week and still pay the bills?

Because I'll tell you this: None of that stuff is as important to your husband as you being a happy, loving wife. Everybody has a bad day once in a while but if you are having a lot of them in a row and are always leaning on your partner for support, that'll put more stress on your relationship and soon that becomes a problem too. If that is happening then you are simply asking too much of yourself.

Think about whether you are capable of doing everything you're doing and still being a happy, loving person that a great guy would love being married to.