I'm not a fan of the "I'd walk away" or "I'd never play in YOUR game" statements. They just seem disrespectful. You'd really stand up in the middle of the game and just walk out?
No, I'd politely say, "Thanks very much for the invitation to play, but this really isn't my cup of tea. I apprecaite the opportunity to hang out, and I wish you the best of luck with your game."
Not talk to the DM after the game and tell him that a certain action or method is just not your cup of tea and see if he's willing to consider your point of view?
If the referee is planning a "grand story," complete with metagaming and flashback sequences, I think my suggestion to not do that is probably less respectful than politely bowing out.
There is a point at which gamers are better off not playing together, Geek Social Fallacies notwithstanding.
Or better yet, talk to him before the game and lay out your expectations, especially the "deal-breakers"?
I can't say how other referees do this, but I do exactly that when I'm behind the screen; I lay out how I run things, and make sure the players have the opportunity to make an informed choice to play, before we start creating characters.
I just don't buy the - you have offended me so to my core that I do not care to ever look upon your face as long as we both shall live - approach.
Thanks for twisting my words from, "I'll politely excuse myself," to "I'll storm off in an outraged huff."
It's just a roundabout, and disrespectful way of saying "you're doing it wrong".
No, it's direct, honest, and respectful way of saying, "We have different tastes in our recreational interests."
A friend of mine and I are both enjoy being outdoors. He likes water skiiing and his motor home; I like kayaking and backpacking. The ways in which we enjoy spending time outdoors are very different; when he invited me to go water skiing, I politely passed, and though he says he'd like to go backpacking sometime, he's never actually followed through on any of the trips I've taken to which he's been invited.
It doesn't make us not friends; it makes us friends with interests we don't share. This is how grown-ups handle differences of opinion.
Shaman, would you object to a DM beginning a campaign with the PCs in prison if the how and why of your PCs capture or arrest were left to you to decide?
It would have to be a dungeon master with whom I'm familiar and whose playstyle is otherwise compatible with mine, a referee and not a 'storyteller' - it wouldn't be anything like what
AKoG outlines above.
Mostly it would be for the novelty of starting with literally nothing and seeing what my character can do from there, not the first "plot point" in some "grand story."