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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Faolyn" data-source="post: 8717678" data-attributes="member: 6915329">I just want to also point out it doesn't need to be something serious like sexual assault, although it very often is.Although I wrote in an earlier post that "the one time in recent memory someone used an X-card..." I keep forgetting that I kind of used one as well. I just did it after the game, rather than at the table, so it might not quite count. But I asked the DM to not have NPCs flirt with my character; since for some reason they'd had a lot of NPCs flirt with my character. They apologized a bunch and haven't done it since.I don't have any trauma associated with flirting. I just have a fun mixture of being aroace and autistic and I tend to freeze up when people and NPCs flirt with me. Like, record-scratch, Blue Screen of Death freezing (apologies for the mixed metaphor). I just have no idea how to react, can't really think, and it becomes super-uncomfortable for me. Uncomfortable enough that the game then becomes un-fun. I can flirt with NPCs, although badly enough it's more like saying "I flirt with the NPC, bat my eyelashes, that sort of stuff" rather than give a full description.So even if the reason behind the X-Card isn't because of something big like being the victim of a sexual assault, not honoring the player's desire to remove that something that makes them that uncomfortable is still pretty disrespectful.</blockquote>