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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Steampunkette" data-source="post: 9603453" data-attributes="member: 6796468">I do not celebrate the passing of Ernie Gary Gygax Jr. It is the inevitable outcome of all things that they end. I will also not mourn the man, because I did not know him so well as to be pained by his passing. But to his friends and his family, who did know him, who do mourn him, who feel one of the deepest pains any can know... I say this:Grief doesn't fade. It doesn't shrink. It doesn't disappear over time as memories fade or new people come into your life. You grow your life around that grief, that pain, until who you are, who you become, is enough to make it not -everything- in you, anymore.I hope your growth comes swiftly. I hope your life expands around that pain. And when someone, inevitably, says something that prods your grief by reminding you of his absence, whether through ignorance or coincidence, I hope that there is enough of you to soften the pang that rises.The issue is twofold:1) You pulled out the "I have a [Insert Minority Group Here] friend who..." canard.2) You used her words as a trans woman to speak over other trans people.As a Cis Man, which you specified, you used a trans woman as a rhetorical cudgel. That's not cool.</blockquote>