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<blockquote data-quote="AaronOfBarbaria" data-source="post: 6846127" data-attributes="member: 6701872">That's a topic that I don't find coming up in a context I can actually talk about it without being far off topic, so thanks for bringing it up.I find it to be true that how a &quot;best friend&quot; responds to a behavior and how a &quot;person just met&quot; responds to a behavior are often different, as you say.However, I reach an entirely different conclusion as to how that information should be used: Instead of excusing behaviors as &quot;ok because we're such good friends&quot;, I find it best to use the information to expose behaviors as &quot;not going to make the new guy want to come back next week.&quot;If someone that has never met me before the session would choose to not return for another session, or worse leave the game mid-session, because of something I did as DM, then that is a thing which I shouldn't do - and especially shouldn't do to anyone I consider a friend, since I presumably want that friendship to grow stronger over time rather than be constantly challenged by me doing irritating things and potentially ending as a result.Note: this applies in the context of &quot;that bothers me, so I'm done playing with you&quot; types of complaints (i.e. playing D&amp;D the way is described in this thread, rather than some other way to play D&amp;d), not &quot;just not what I'm into&quot; cases (i.e. playing D&amp;D with a person that doesn't like high fantasy pseudo-medieval stories of any kind), which are extremely different.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="AaronOfBarbaria, post: 6846127, member: 6701872"] That's a topic that I don't find coming up in a context I can actually talk about it without being far off topic, so thanks for bringing it up. I find it to be true that how a "best friend" responds to a behavior and how a "person just met" responds to a behavior are often different, as you say. However, I reach an entirely different conclusion as to how that information should be used: Instead of excusing behaviors as "ok because we're such good friends", I find it best to use the information to expose behaviors as "not going to make the new guy want to come back next week." If someone that has never met me before the session would choose to not return for another session, or worse leave the game mid-session, because of something I did as DM, then that is a thing which I shouldn't do - and especially shouldn't do to anyone I consider a friend, since I presumably want that friendship to grow stronger over time rather than be constantly challenged by me doing irritating things and potentially ending as a result. Note: this applies in the context of "that bothers me, so I'm done playing with you" types of complaints (i.e. playing D&D the way is described in this thread, rather than some other way to play D&d), not "just not what I'm into" cases (i.e. playing D&D with a person that doesn't like high fantasy pseudo-medieval stories of any kind), which are extremely different. [/QUOTE]

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