Are gamers calling it "icky"? That's what I'm concerned with and that's what was brought up as a counterpoint to the slavery discussion is it happening in actual games...
Yes, that's what I'm saying.
Again are these concerns that are happening with gamers in games or are we now ok with citing the hypothetical as opposed to calling for real instances?
Again, yes. Non-theoretical. It ranges from snippy prudish-ness to outright censorious attitudes to even a few people claiming it's somehow bigoted against Ace people to have games which include sexuality (like Apocalypse World, for example). That last one is, I would suggest, a hell of a red herring because most asexual people would I think strenuously disagree - but there are people out there with that viewpoint (and some of them claim to be Ace, and I can't really critique/explore whether that's an accurate self-description).
I would make a point of difference between people who are simply uncomfortable with sexuality in specific games they're actually playing, and would prefer to X-card it or rule it out in Session 0, because those people don't tend to be objecting to games including sexual elements per se, just it's something at the table. These people are objecting more to games even including sexual elements - including games they're not playing.
EDIT - I'd say the "objecting to games merely existing" thing is basically what
@billd91 seems to be suggesting is cool, because he's saying it's not good enough to X-card or session 0 out topics.
I think it's a pretty dangerous game on their part because many of them identify as LGBTQ+ and unfortunately their rhetoric accidentally aligns pretty well with certain current right-wing attempts to label the mere admission of the existence of LGBTQ+ individuals as "sexual" and "inappropriate".
This is about people who bounce off the hobby because people in it make it unapproachable by the content they prominently include or the stridency with which they defend said content and display they have a deaf ear to anybody else's experiences and point of view.
This seems deeply lacking in self-awareness lol. Especially in the context of your earlier comments re: empathy and so on.