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Message: <blockquote data-quote="barsoomcore" data-source="post: 671548" data-attributes="member: 812">But don't you see that by "riding it out" you are in fact controlling it? That you have taught yourself to embrace your emotions and thereby reduce the degree to which they screw up your life? You ARE controlling your emotions, I assure you. It doesn't look like it from the inside, I'm sure, but I bet people who know you remark on how you've learned to cope."Man, remember when you were a kid and you beat the snot out of that other kid? You've sure relaxed a lot since then."Just by your posts here on this thread it's become clear that you have a pretty relaxed, "live and let live" policy which speaks strongly against the notion that you are at the mercy of your emotions.And I bet you'll find, if you haven't already, that the more you engage in this "embrace and extend" behaviour, the more your immediate reactions become calmer and more rational.Emotions are LEARNED behaviour. They are of course influenced by biology but we learn how to express those biological changes and environmental stimulus through emotions. And we can learn new emotional responses -- indeed, that's exactly what you are doing, and I suggest that you're going about it in just the right way.You can't just turn off your emotions. Not without long and thoughtful examination of yourself and your reasons for your behaviour. So much of what we do is controlled subconsciously that in order to change we have to explore ourselves very deeply. But if we explore and understand, we are capable of changing.I'm glad to hear it.Lab/chow? That's gotta be one tubby dog. <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f609.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=";)" title="Wink    ;)"  data-smilie="2"data-shortname=";)" /></blockquote>

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