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Message: <blockquote data-quote="barsoomcore" data-source="post: 672264" data-attributes="member: 812">Well, one person's statement of philosophy is another's statement of how things work. I happen to believe that my philosophy describes how things work. That's why I use it. It helps me to understand the world, which it wouldn't be able to do if it didn't describe how things worked.When I think something is true I say so. I don't feel any need to hide it behind "humble opinions" or what have you. I've spent a lot of time thinking about this and here's what I think. If you disagree, great! Tell me why, point out all my failings and laugh at my intellectual ineptitude.That's what everyone in my family does. <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f609.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=";)" title="Wink    ;)"  data-smilie="2"data-shortname=";)" />You misunderstand. I'm not talking about projection of feelings, I'm not talking about blame. What I am saying is that there is something about YOU that made you get so angry with her.Forget about her actions. You can't make her stop, you can't take back any of the things she's said or done, forget it. Doesn't do any good. All you can do is look at yourself and discover what it is about YOU that makes you get so angry.Which is, of course, exactly what you did.See? Problem solved. Not by yelling and hollering at her (though I'm sure there was some of that) but just by removing yourself from the equation.Maybe in a perfect world you could examine your own navel for three hundred years and acquire the peace and wisdom to sit with her and let her rage without getting angry. Maybe it would only take a week. Not the point. You took some responsibility and you put an end to a destructive situation.I don't know, jdavis, you keep saying what a jerk you are but you keep coming across like a sweetie. I will say that if your friends REALLY thought you were a jerk, they wouldn't be your friends.</blockquote>

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