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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Kesh" data-source="post: 676210" data-attributes="member: 1308">IMHO, it's unhealthy to try and 'turn off' these emotions. Control them, yes. However, as has been pointed out before, sometimes emotions are life-saving. Rather than choosing not to feel anger/fear/etc., it's better to accept and control them.But, that's me. <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile    :)"  data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" />Outwardly calm. <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile    :)"  data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" /> Anger fits in, because humans are not inherently logical or rational beings. We can reason, but at our core we rely on emotions as a guide for a moral and social compass.And like a compass, while it can tell you which direction is North (or how you interperet the situation), you can always choose to go a different direction to reach your destination.What doesn't work is ignoring the compass entirely and trying to wing it. More often than not, you'll end up going in circles. <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile    :)"  data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" />Yep. That sums it up. I think our primary disagreement is that anger is an inherently bad thing. Every emotion has its place, though some can be more destructive than others. I consider them all tools, to be used properly and under control.Fear can be healthy. Only a fool doesn't fear dying when in a life-threatening situation. Learning why you're afraid, and how to deal with it, is a key to surviving the situation. Ignoring the fear can lead to ignoring the dangers.Anger is the same way. Finding the source of your anger can lead to correcting the problem, whether it's internal ("I shouldn't be angry about that... why does it bother me?") or external ("Ohhh, you are not going to get away with doing that!").On the flip side, it's good to recognize why something makes you happy or content. That makes it easier to repeat the experience in the future. <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile    :)"  data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" />Heh. A nice philosophy, but I'm a bit of a realist. If you don't accomplish your goal, you failed that goal. Perhaps you achieved something different, which may be as good or better than the original goal. Still, the original target was missed.Perhaps part of this comes from being raised by an ex-Marine. One thing I learned from him, that I will keep with me until my dying day:"It doesn't matter if it's pretty. It just has to get the job done, and do it right. If it doesn't work, fix it. Nothing gets done by wallowing in your failure. Just get it to work."Sounds harsh. But really, it works out. If something fails, find out why. Maybe you messed up, or maybe the goal was flawed. Either way, it's better to fix it than to just get stuck brooding. <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile    :)"  data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" /></blockquote>

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