Why the hate?

[jdrakeh]

For the most part this is one of the most polite message boards anywhere!!

Agreed 100%. I think you have a few groups of people who try really hard to turn it into the Wild West from time to time, but I've never seen these attempts at fanning the flames come to fruition.

[Edit: While making some adjustments to my profile, I realized that I have over 20 people on my IL. I guess it's possible that ENWorld merely seems friendly to me because I use the "Ignore Poster" button like a SAW gunner uses bullets. ]

 

[Arashi Ravenblade]

to avoid fighting i say my peace and usually dont check back (which is why ive been a memeber since 2003 and dont even have 200 posts). ive said some jerky things in the past, though most might not remember them (here or at circvus Maximus) but i just say whatever i have to say and leave. cause if i come back and someone has insulted my opinion i tend to get a little angry and lash back.

 

[Edena_of_Neith]

It can *just be fun.*
If I am DM, and I can do my job at all, I will endeavor to my best to make it so it can *just be fun.*
If I am a player, and there is not *just be fun* there, I talk with my DM, and we try to arrange things so that the *just be fun* is back.

After all, the DM is my FRIEND. He wants me to *just have fun.*
If I am DM, I am the FRIEND of my players. And naturally I want them to *just have fun.*

It is really that simple. Follow that core guideline, and you can break through all the obstacles and problems, all the interpersonal communication bickers, all the nonsense, and you can *just have fun.*

However, even *fun* requires - effort. Nothing comes for free. If you are DM do not try, and/or if you as a player do not try, you will not *just have fun.*
Put in the effort, and the reward will come. That's how it is. That's how it always will be. Make your players appreciate that, and everything else will follow.

 

[Kae'Yoss]

Agreed 100%. I think you have a few groups of people who try really hard to turn it into the Wild West from time to time, but I've never seen these attempts at fanning the flames come to fruition.

[Edit: While making some adjustments to my profile, I realized that I have over 20 people on my IL. I guess it's possible that ENWorld merely seems friendly to me because I use the "Ignore Poster" button like a SAW gunner uses bullets. ]

The Ignore List is the most useful feature here. EN World may be the most civil place around, but it still has its share of haters and flamers and whatever. Once you ignore them, it's quite okay.

I have to say to its defense, though: My ignore list over at the Wizards boards is much bigger.

 

[diaglo]

But we can be polite about it... Can't we?

if we are polite people normally.

some of us aren't. myself included.

so i tend to ignore those with whom i don't wish to discuss topics. that is the best i can do to be polite.

have a nice day.

 

[WizarDru]

For the most part this is one of the most polite message boards anywhere!!

Quite honestly, it used to be better, IMHO. ENworld is a much more negative place than it was 7 years ago. It's still one of the best and most civil public forums of it's size and kind, but I find that it degenerates into the same arguments (often by and between the same people) much more often than it once did.

 

[Quasqueton]

For the most part this is one of the most polite message boards anywhere!!

When someone comes and pees in our sandbox, pointing out that other sandboxes have deficate, drug needles, and fire ants doesn't make me more accepting of the pee.

Quasqueton

 

[ShinHakkaider]

[Edit: While making some adjustments to my profile, I realized that I have over 20 people on my IL. I guess it's possible that ENWorld merely seems friendly to me because I use the "Ignore Poster" button like a SAW gunner uses bullets. ]

I also have a large amount of people in my ignore list.
It's one of the reasons that I'm able to keep coming back here.

Irony of this post would be if I were one of the people on jdrakeh's IL.

 

[Umbran]

"My friend Artie's D&D game in 1983 didn't have anime influences and the greatest video game of all time is pong!"

"teh anime n video games is the next step in RPGS lol if u don't like it stop playing!!!!!!"

"D&D is a tactical simulation game where we essentially play chess with more options. If it's not printed in a rulebook I don't allow it in my games!"

(Of course I exagerrate, but not by much...)

Why all the incivility?

Well, here's part of it. Two out of your three examples are civil. If your bar of civility is set so high that a statement of personal opinion or preference is unvicil, yes, you'll see a lot of it around.

 

[Fifth Element]

Fighting is not what these boards, or our hobby, is about.

Tell that to the orcs. They keep trying to kill my characters.