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Message: <blockquote data-quote="barsoomcore" data-source="post: 570756" data-attributes="member: 812">I don't know if anyone else here has seen the incredibly coolINCREDIBLY COOLKorean movie Volcano High, but there's a moment in it that pertains to this discussion and in particular to Henry's point above, about respect.In the film, Dark Ox Jang Ryang (captain of the weightlifting team and the bad guy of the piece) is trying to convince Icy Jade (captain of the kendo team) that he loves her. He's on his knees, begging and pleading and demanding.He's already kicked our scrappy underdog hero, Kim Kyung-Soo, into the back wall, so everyone's surprised when Kim stands up and says:"One should never pester a girl for her affections! It's not manly!"Then a big, incredibly coolINCREDIBLY COOLfight takes place, of course.But I agree with Henry and with Kim Kyung-Soo (with the caveat that "manly" is being used to mean "noble"). Show some respect -- not only for other people, but by golly for yourself! Aren't you ashamed to be skulking around some person who has no interest in you? Aren't you better than that? Can't you find people who LIKE you?QUIT WHINING AND GET A LIFE!Our society makes it too easy for people to be pathetic losers. We expect nothing from each other because we're terrified of making people feel bad if they fail.You know what? You SHOULD feel bad if you fail. Get it right next time.If a girl tells you to get lost, you SHOULD feel like an idiot. You're SUPPOSED to. Because nine times out of ten, when a girl or a boy tells you to get lost, you've just been an idiot.Grrrr.I've been told I come across as arrogant and intimidating because I challenge people to prove themselves. That I seem really confident -- as though this were a bad thing!And frankly I'm a mess of insecurities and doubts -- but I'll be durned if I'll let anyone else see that!Oh, wait, I didn't mean to say that...I'm blathering ("Really? We'd never have known..."). Stalking is cowardly behaviour. It truly maddens me.Now, when I was fifteen, I had a terrible crush on a girl. I called her half-a-dozen times one night. She was obviously trying to get rid of me, but I just wasn't getting it. She might very well have seen my behaviour as stalker-like, and it might very well have frightened her. On the other hand, she never ever said to me, "No thanks." She kept saying things like, "I'm busy," which as an insecure fifteen-year-old I was unable to translate.I was fifteen and I was incredibly insecure. Maybe if I had been taught to be more trusting in myself I wouldn't have behaved in such a way. Maybe if I'd been more adept at social translation I would have understood her sideways rejections. Maybe if she had had more faith in herself, she would have been able to explain the situation to me clearly and not left me with little tendrils of hope I kept grabbing onto and refusing to let go of. Cowardly? Yes. Typical adolescent behaviour? I think so. And part of the learning process, I suppose.So stalking is cowardly, certainly. So is not being clear when you don't want someone's attentions. The difference is that one is an invasion of privacy.So anyways, if you get a chance to see Volcano High, make sure you do. It's incredibly coolINCREDIBLY COOL.</blockquote>

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