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Message: <blockquote data-quote="KitanaVorr" data-source="post: 570770" data-attributes="member: 9167">I've never been to a gaming convention, so I can't answer about what goes on there.  However, I have not had the unfortunate instance of being stalked (and I hope I never will) and I think it has something to do with my personality.Its not because I'm wretched ugly or something (lol at the point of sounding nearly vain, I've been considered gorgeous and have participated in beauty contests and fashion shows) or that I'm a complete uh..."witch" or anything like that.  In fact, I'm extremely flirtateous and affectionate.Perhaps the part of the problem is being able to nip it in the bud before it begins to get to be a problem.  I think that I haven't had any stalkers because I intimidate men.  Perhaps that's the way to go.  If you scare the pants off of them with your intelligence and exude an aura of well power, they'll back off.  I think those kind of men prefer to stalk women they feel are not a threat to them, that they feel won't put up a fight.I've visually seen the expression on men's face change from "oh look isn't she such a cute little sweet friendly bubbly stereotypical asian girl" to "oh my god she's a martial artist who can kick my butt physically and mentally, run away run away".So ladies, maybe the answer is to be more confident in person (not just online) and exude an aura of power and intimidation.  To let men know that you're not going to put up with something like that...ever.That way you can differentiate the creepy guys from the shy guys.  I've also found that the 'creepy' guys lose their creepiness when you find the correct way to approach them that makes them feel at ease.  Not to say that there aren't some total wack-jobs out there that nothing you can do will diffuse the situation, but I think this will work with 90% of those problems out there.I know that we women can't solve the problem ourselves (but we'll keep on trying since we're natural problem solvers) and that men have to learn to grow up but maybe this will keep us surviving for now.And the NEXT idiot guy who says that women's intelligence is huddled around average...!!!  Is someone who doesn't know the complicated dynamics of women at all...</blockquote>

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