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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Elf Witch" data-source="post: 5865100" data-attributes="member: 9037">I play 7 Seas which does not have character death I have had new players coming from DnD asking for death because that makes the game more exciting for them. I usually tell them no because that is not how I run my 7 Seas games. But I don't get angry about it or view them as being rude for ignoring the game history. They can either stay or leave.There is not one shred of difference between asking not to die in a game that has death and asking to die in a game that does not. You asking to be treated differently than the other players and that is asking for special treatment. And it is the same thing just in reverse.From what the OP has said this player has played DnD before but with a DM whose play  style was one of not using death in the game. So from his experience playing DnD has been different from someone who has come from a more traditional style DM.So for you your social norm is it is rude to ask for things you do realize that other people's social norms are not the same. So it is important no to let your social norms make a judgement that may not be applicable to a situation. I was taught it was okay to ask for thing as long as you are polite. So if I ask for something I am not trying to be rude at all. Using your example of a player asking for a +5 avenger to put in the game is not rude. As the DM you can say no or say well you need to research how to find one and go on a quest. I was playing a dex fighter in a game with low magic so you couldn't buy items you had to find them in treasure. So I asked the DM if he would be willing to put some kind of dex boast item like gloves of dexterity as treasure. I was not trying to tell him how to run his game or trying to be rude. I was simply looking for a way to make my character more playable and more enjoyable.</blockquote>

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