I made an oberyn based character in one of my campaigns and had to deal with this same issue. I thought glaive but finesse based but my dm said it would be to much damage for a finesse weapon. He decided i had to stick with the 1d8 of a rapier(the highest finesse dmg) but i could consider it a spear or glaive without reach or throwing. I didnt like his decision.
He wasn't exactly wrong. The lower base damage of the finesse weapons are about the only thing that makes strength even a little viable still. The rapier might even still be too high (see threads about the longsword going extinct).