Azurewraith
Explorer
If the player gives me something to work with in said background ill work with it, if they don't well I'm stuffed
Sure. My point is if you just say soldier sure you get whatever the soldier feature bonus is if it comes up but I'm not rewriting my campaign around that. If you write up your soldier background I will. It's not even much needed. Where were you a soldier? Give me something to work with and I'll use it. Don't give me anything and I'll keep it more generic. I only have so much time in the week to prep things. If I'm doing it from scratch with no help from the players it will be more generic. I'm fine with organic backgrounds developed in play if you aren't the writing type. But until you develop it I have less to work with. You will get your free passage as a sailor but I'm not going to have a former crew mate bump into you and have a story hook about the white whale sighting if you don't tell me about the white whale that killed most of your friends.Shouldn't the background that the player writes up include their background from the PH (or customer one)?
In my group we do frequently use backgrounds for more than just mechanical purposes. In our group it flows both ways, sometimes the DM initiates the use and sometimes the players do.