I actually feel for the OP. I reckon that there's a difference between finding a "nerdy" girl and nerdifying one; the qualities or mindset that the naturally nerdy girl has, that she has something she's deeply interested in for its own sake which is something you (plural) can connect with very strongly. And being deeply interested in some sort of geekdom, that something will often reflect personality traits such as dreamy-ness or at least with an imagination she's happy to indulge in. That's actually hot! Not to say that a nerdificatability (definitely a word) in a partner isn't a very sweet thing, its actually pretty awesome, and one sign that your partner is deeply interested in you (plural). But its a difference!...This kind of pickiness IS valid, tho many people decry it a lot; you just gotta be ready to accept loneliness until you can get that (if ever), and that's a steep price; I have friends in this predicament with a real chance of being lonely forever because of it. Most other people aren't willing to pay such a high price for their (morals? affirmations?); and indeed, opening up your eyes to other possibilities may net you other qualities you never knew could be so awesome because they weren't on your list. God; I should be writing in a Soap Mag.....