Gaming and Your Significant Other

[MonkeyDragon]

I don't have an SO but there are two couples in my group.

One has been together for about a million years. I think he was the one who introduced her to gaming specifically (they introduced me), but her geek-fu was very strong before that.

In the other couple, he brought her to the group several years before I started to play. I've heard that she was a little iffy on it at first, but then it all clicked and she took to it like a duck to water.

Both of them are not the SOs of gamers, but gamers themselves, and either will play without the other half if something arises.

As for myself, I'd really like to be with someone I can game with. I wouldn't say that it's a deal-breaker if he doesn't game (or doesn't want to learn), but it's a pretty big part of my life and I'd like to share it. I'm a nerd-girl, and all I really want is a nice nerd-boy.

 

[Protagonist]

and the solo roleplaying we do is always really really fun.

right...

 

[PaulofCthulhu]

My wife was a roleplayer before we met, but we did not meet through gaming and only found out afterwards.

We play together often; sometimes I run, sometimes she runs, sometimes we're both players. We go to conventions together and are both members of our local RPG society.

She also helps me run my web site, and is currently writing a games supplement for Call of Cthulhu.

Games we're both playing in are also available to listen to.

I am fortunate.

 

[StreamOfTheSky]

My wife used to game, when we first started dating. That ended after a few months.

I feel your pain. My girlfriend (now fiancee) was willing to try playing D&D early on with me, but quickly decided it wasn't for her. That was a rather crushing blow for me, I REALLY wanted my wife to be someone playing in games with me. Ditto for playing video games together, she did a bit at first, but ever since avoids it and insists on single-player games like many RPGs and the Sims. I mean, I like single-player RPG video games, too, but it'd be nice to play with her once in a while.

So anyway, selected "not a gamer," as it seemed the closest answer, though she is. I interpreted "gamer" in the poll to mean someone who plays P&P or other social RPGs, which she doesn't.

 

[darjr]

My wife was an on again off again gamer. She was off when I met her and I didn't know she played. We've gamed together before, we both went off of gaming for a while, I'm back gaming and she isn't yet.

 

[TheNovaLord]

been married 20 years. she is not a gamer and has never expressed any interest in playing

she has never said 'dont go out to play tonight' and she knows its my hobby and important

been gaming 27 years, all my close friends are gamers

dont particularly like having couples at the table as it inevitiably influences things. Sometimes the couple seperate game from life and you dont realise till afterwards that two of the players were a couple. But this is a rare event

 

[JackSmithIV]

My fiance was working at my FLGS in New York City. She's the hot nerd girl behind the counter. I swept her of her feet, and we moved in together in the following months. We game together for most of the gaming we do. She and my close friends get along perfectly, so she's in my D&D home game, and fits in flawlessly without any of the problems you'd normally have with a couple at the table, because I just treat her like any other player. She's an Eladrin Swordmage, and a damn good one at that. We also WoW together occasionally. I'm a dwarf rogue, and she's a draeni mage. We're a great little team for questing.

Gaming is incredbily important to me, and it's one of the reasons we're engaged. I've met a few girls in my time who I've been very in love with, but for the first time, I feel like I'll never find someone who understands my love and passion as much as she does.

 

[CleverNickName]

My wife and I game together whenever we get the chance. Unfortunately, since I started engineering school, and since she started working at the local repertory theatre, we don't get very many chances.

Maybe when our schedules settle down a bit, we will be able to settle back into a nice, cozy routine of bi-weekly gaming again.

 

[Rel]

As for myself, I'd really like to be with someone I can game with. I wouldn't say that it's a deal-breaker if he doesn't game (or doesn't want to learn), but it's a pretty big part of my life and I'd like to share it. I'm a nerd-girl, and all I really want is a nice nerd-boy.

If only you knew of a large website populated by a lot of single guys interested in gaming, from all over the country and indeed the world. Ah well maybe something will turn up.

I'm a dwarf rogue, and she's a draeni mage. We're a great little team for questing.

What?! How can you make this claim when you guys are all DPS with no heals or tanking?

 

[meomwt]

Mrs meomwt had never played F2F games before meeting me: her previous RP experience was all CRPG (Baldur's Gate, etc.), so she had been exposed to the basics of the D&D Rules from those games.

Of course, 3E was none of that!

She was the one who had the idea of getting our current group together after Junior meomwt #1 was born, she's been a big part of the whole thing, and hates it if we have to cancel for any reason. And she plays the best Rogue I've ever seen.

We had another couple at our table. It was a disaster. She came along not long after thay had starteddating, he thought he had to show off to impress her with his knowledge of the rules or his ablity showboat in any situation. We had to kick them out, in the end, the pair of them were making life unbearable for the rest of the players.