Offense is taken, not given!
I've heard people say that recently (is that a thing?), and I think it's really stupid. No offense.
That's like saying comedy is taken, not given. Or compliments are taken, not given. Why bother saying anything at all if it's all meaningless, only depending on what the listener hears?
Really, though, it removes agency and intentionality from the speaker/artist. There are times when I
want to offend. The ability to provoke, offend, and shock lies at core of artistic speech.
Death Metal music isn't "for everyone" either, but the people from that scene are some of the most fun, caring, and loving people I've met in my life.
Certainly true! But "death metal" is a sub-genre of "metal" and in turn has spawned numerous sub-genres. Moreover, it is not necessary that every single death metal band be, for example, Cannibal Corpse. Or, for that matter, burn down churches.
Which moves back to the point of the thread- going to my Lovecraft analogy, I really enjoy cosmic horror, and I grew up reading Lovecraft. But the
point of Lovecraft, the
defining characteristic of the cosmic horror genre, isn't the racism!
When I think of S&S, I don't think of it as being
transgressive. Then again, I have a high bar for what constitutes transgressive- Conan and Fafhrd are not exactly Mapplethorpe in the '80s, or Burroughs in the '50s- instead, they reified the traditional societal roles of the time. Ahem.
Instead, I view them as being modern- as acting very much in a way that is contrary to the 'small-c' conservative Tolkien-esque (Alexender, Lewis) "high fantasy" that was so .... boring.
I love S&S because, unlike high fantasy, it doesn't suck.