I'm not sure if you aren't getting my point, or we just disagree.
But if you are familiar with the racist tropes the West often uses towards Asian cultures, focusing on the physical beauty, femininity, of both Asian males and females is a real problem. The inclusion of Comeliness in OA inadvertently plays right into that, and is therefore problematic and hurtful. Unintentionally so.
Had Zeb Cook, back in the day, been more aware of these cultural issues, he would have likely decided NOT to include Comeliness in OA, and saved it for a later book.
The smart student and wise older person are also stereotypes of Asian Americans. If the panelists had been coming to OA from a game that lacked Int or Wis, and critiqued the inclusion of those in a game about East Asia centered on physical combat, would you feel the same way about the criticism?
[Apologies if you answered a similar question from someone else earlier and I missed it. And thank you for all of your posts in this and similar threads].