Some things to consider though, which I think shows this is more about overall balance than anything else, the 90s Vampire RPG, brought in a lot of women, and that had much more sexuality to it than D&D. Also at that time, vampire novels by female authors were huge (some male authors too, but a ton of female authors were emerging). I used to be very into that genre of horror and so much of it was laden with sensuality, sex, etc. The female writers explored that too (albeit from a slightly different point of view than the male writers). Or take the romance novel. Fabio was a huge celebrity, in part for being a beefcake on the cover of Romance novels, and those mostly have a female readership I believe. I have a cousin who is an artist. She has no interest in titillation or pornography but she often incorporates sexuality and nudity into her art. And it is done in a way that shows a range of things from the beauty of the form, to vulnerability, to power, etc. Most of the time she focuses on the female form, but she does do male images occasionally as well. That is just an artistic choice in her case, which I think is valid.