SteveC
Doing the best imitation of myself
I can't agree with this more. Is the issue with half-elves settled? Until a couple of days ago, I had never even heard anyone make the argument, and I listen to these discussions quite a bit.You are acting like the discussion about orcs, drow, and now half elves is settled. I don't think that discussion is settled at all. And I think you can be for things like evil orcs, drow, and half elves and half orcs, and be a perfectly good human being. These are things that can add to the game and I feel like we in passing through a cultural moment where people have prepped themselves to find problems in media content that is either innocent, not the biggest deal in the world, or open to more interpretations than the one they are presenting as fact. If these three things bother you, that is fair. Some movies and books bother me that don't bother other people. We all have our tastes, our sensibilities and our moral lenses through which we evaluate media. But I think what is less okay here is the narrowing of what is possible or permissible as an interoperation. I am not a heretic for looking at this stuff and seeing something different than you are seeing. And it isn't me refusing to see evidence. We are both seeing the same evidence and have reached different conclusions.
On the issues of orcs or drow, I definitely know the arguments here, but nothing is settled beyond "some people are offended by them and think they are racist." I understand that they are offended, but I certainly don't cede the ground that they actually are offensive. While I certainly respect the feelings, I don't agree that this is somehow something that there is consensus on. There are a ton of different parts of the hobby that I don't like, and a few that I'm genuinely offended by. Why on earth should I expect anyone to care about that? I handle these things by not playing games I don't like, and if a discussion comes up about them, I will say why I don't like the game. And that's about it.
If I were running a game and you told me "I don't like these elements and find them offensive," I'd certainly listen to you and we'd talk. That's because I try to be a decent person and not make a game where people are uncomfortable. At the same time, when I was running Curse of Strahd, I had a player tell me that they basically didn't like horror games. I had to tell them that Curse wasn't the game for them. The next game I ran, we talked about what they liked in a game and I made sure to run that kind of a game because they were my friend. If you don't like orcs or drow or ... you name it, some D&D games won't be for you. That doesn't mean that D&D shouldn't include those elements.