Of course it matters. If expectations don't align, something went wrong and someone should go find a group where expectations align. You don't get to expect the DM to conform to you or vice versa unless expectations were established at the outset.
I mean it’s an obvious point and it doesn’t help the discussion. And it doesn’t address the original point.
We’ve all agreed that this is a subjective matter and if everyone is on the same page then there’s no issue.
And the social contract is only going to do so much. I donnt expect people will go line by line and ability by ability in the book and rubber stamp everything. I think most of the time, what’s written in the book is a good default expectation.
The lifeless plane was not only not nonsense, it had specific purpose which I stated. It was direct at the folks saying the ability should always work. If that's their expectation, then they believe it should work on the lifeless plane. If they don't think it should work on the lifeless plane, then they don't think it should always work.
It’s nonsense because if a plane is lifeless, then why would the player as about eggs or what have you? If a plane is lifeless, I’d expect that to be immediately obvious.
That answer to that detail is critical, because if they truly do believe in always and that it should work on a lifeless plane, then rational discourse can't happen and I should bow out. If they don't believe in always, then we can start working towards finding out where the line should be drawn where it's okay not to allow the ability to work.
No one’s saying always. But it’s a matter of why deny it? What is happening when the use of the ability is denied?
As for the duke vacationing, I do find that compelling. Is the duke expected to know from wherever he is that a noble is knocking and grant that person the right to stay? His staff likely don't have the authority to do it. That's the problem with "compelling." It's subjective.
There are no other local nobles? No members of the duke’s household that can step in? No other noble available? It doesn’t have to be a specific noble.
No. That's patently false. It almost surely has nothing to do with wanting their ideas to matter more.
Oh okay, my mistake because I thought you said stuff like…
I can decide that the most logical response is that the noble is refused for whatever valid reason without wanting my decisions to matter more than yours.
Well, stuff like that!
You don't get to ascribe motivations for to us for why we do things. We get to tell you OUR motivations.
I don’t really think we’re disagreeing about motivations.
40 years of playing and DMing and not once have I ever thought to myself, "Self, I want my ideas to matter more than anyone else's, so I need to make X decision."
You just did it above. You just labeled it as “most logical”, but that’s an example of your idea (the one you deem logical) being given more importance than the player’s (the one you deem logical).
The rules put the decision making on me for D&D and no rule is without exception. Specific beats general and a specific circumstance such as the duke not being home beats the general ability.
And here you justify your choice to place your ideas ahead of other participants’.
Again, this is perfectly fine. It’s totally a valid and fun way to play.
Well, sure. If you fictionalize motivations for us that just plain aren't there like "Wanting our ideas to matter more than yours" and "players can't be trusted," then sure your false attributions will make it hard for you to see this as anything but "an argument to preserve DM authority."
I’m not fictionalizing anything. I’m describing what you’re doing based on your own words.
Reality matters, though, and the reality is that those motives are not something you can force upon us. When you try you fail and just make yourself look really bad. Don't do it. Respond to what we say, not motives you are inventing in your head.
I am responding to what you are saying.