Micah Sweet
Level Up & OSR Enthusiast
I have no idea what Tales of Xadia is, and aspects are a turn off for me in every game I've ever seen them.Okay, but they're not. You need to look at the whole picture and not just fixate on any narrative mechanics you see. Consider, for example, that in Cortex Prime, a GM can run an adventure path for Tales of Xadia. So what you need to look at instead are what those narrative mechanics do, what the GM and player roles are, and how everything fits together.
It's likely confirmation bias. The people you are talking about relatively small active minority in a sea of traditional gamers. If our situations were reversed, I think that your viewpoint would be put into proper perspective, and I think that you would be quite humbled by that revelation.
As to the second part of your post, all any of us have to go on are our experiences. If I am constantly encountering narrative supporting posters in multiple threads of the one gaming site I frequent, then that style has a strong lobby from my perspective. It doesn't matter if it's different elsewhere, where I don't go. Why would it?