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[Gradine]

Now, holding the elevator door is a different beast entirely, you hold that for everyone and anyone or you're a monster

 

[Gradine]

If they're several steps back I can see your point (and speed up myself for that reason). If it's just a couple steps I certainly hold it and it feels rude to me that someone wouldn't.

Totally, if they're like right there. But I've had people see me coming from a ways away and think "Oh I must hold the door for them!" and I don't want to be responsible for wasting their time

 

[Cadence]

Totally, if they're like right there. But I've had people see me coming from a ways away and think "Oh I must hold the door for them!" and I don't want to be responsible for wasting their time

I try to only do that if I'm like obviously reading a book, and will say something "If you hurry I will have to grade papers!?!?" with a look of horror on my face showing exactly how much I don't want to do that.

 

[mythago]

This exactly. Speaking as a woman, I'd rather you hold the door for me because you're a decent person than because I've got lady parts. The first is kindness, or at least following social niceties; the second is condescending, as if I either can't do it myself or need to be catered to.

Don't forget the third option, where the guy holding the door glares at you challengingly like he's waiting for you to give him a feminist lecture, because that is totally a thing that happens in real life and that he wants to feel aggrieved about.

 

[Snarf Zagyg]

Don't forget the third option, where the guy holding the door glares at you challengingly like he's waiting for you to give him a feminist lecture, because that is totally a thing that happens in real life and that he wants to feel aggrieved about.

I never knew that holding doors was such a contentious topic!

Obviously, we need to come together with a solution.

Thinking ...

We get rid of doors.

 

[Scribe]

Don't forget the third option, where the guy holding the door glares at you challengingly like he's waiting for you to give him a feminist lecture, because that is totally a thing that happens in real life and that he wants to feel aggrieved about.

Not once in my life have I see this from either the angle of the angry man child, nor raging feminist, I'm sure you meant to add a /s in there or something.

Once in my life, I was told by an older guy 'Hey now dont call me sir!' which is fine, he was clearly more of the Hippie persuasion and I apologized we chuckled and moved on.

Otherwise? Maybe its just where I live in the world, but good manners are appreciated.

 

[Cadence]

Don't forget the third option, where the guy holding the door glares at you challengingly like he's waiting for you to give him a feminist lecture, because that is totally a thing that happens in real life and that he wants to feel aggrieved about.

I got yelled at once for holding a door for someone because they could hold doors themselves.

I just assumed they were an ass and I think I was right. They were the only one ever.

 

[Thomas Shey]

Re: retiring characters and rolling up new ones:

That you saw plenty of people who treated doing this as a major moral failing is unfortunate. Their problem, however, not mine and not yours.

And...major moral failing? Yikes!

Yup. It was treated as outright cheating, by people who clearly put a lot of weight on that.

And it was kind of a problem at the time because it taught a lot of people to be obfuscatory about how they generated--and disposed of--characters.

 

[overgeeked]

Yup. It was treated as outright cheating, by people who clearly put a lot of weight on that.

And it was kind of a problem at the time because it taught a lot of people to be obfuscatory about how they generated--and disposed of--characters.

It’s this exact thing that lead me to drop rolling stats. If you’re just going to be boring, refuse to play the dice as they lay, and suicide every character you don’t like the stats of, there’s no point in rolling stats. So, to prevent wasting game time with endless character deaths until someone gets amazing stats, just be boring and take the standard array.

To me, it’s part of play to find out what happens. This time you rolled bad stats. Play that character as long as you possibly can to see how far you can take them. That’s fun. Other people seem to think it’s only fun if they have monster stats, all bonuses and no penalties, and are just amazing. To me, that’s the epitome of boring.

 

[Aldarc]

Michael Moorcock's "Epic Pooh" essay criticizing Tolkien and C.S. Lewis for their underlying English conservatism was much closer on the mark than I think people are eager to admit due to their fondness of these works. I also think that his "Epic Pooh" essay could easily be applied to a lot of fantasy out there that hews towards the conservative an idyll, such as its sympathetic concerns with "rightful monarchs" rather than questioning whether monarchies are problematic power structures.