Yeah, I too want to commend you on the delicate way you replied.
Too often I see posters not being charitable.
It's kinda sorta the purpose behind the thread.
These conversations aren't easy. And nuance? It really doesn't do well on the internet. Heck, I think that's the mission statement of twitter/X - Where nuance goes to die!
Part of the issue is that people can feel very strongly about their own beliefs. And part of it is that I think we have all run into bad-faith actors on the internet.
But I honestly think that we need to assume that, until evidence emerges otherwise, people are grappling with the issues in good faith! And not everyone is at the same point- I don't think that there is a single one of us that was born having only correct beliefs, and we are all capable of growth and change.
I try to think about the ways I have evolved over time* and then remember that everyone else can do that too. They may not! But if they are asking the questions, if they are engaged, then they are open-minded enough to at least consider the possibility of change. And even if they don't change, maybe they will at least soften.
Of course, this is the internet, and I am not always successful at that. Some times my blood gets angered too. But as I always say, the perfect is the enemy of the good. Forgive yourself, and forgive others.
*I mean, there used to be a time when I thought vodka martinis were acceptable! HA!