So you don't think that having sex with a member of your crew means "defecating where one eats"? Good! Why would you say otherwise? It was quite confusing!
Maybe I've been too literal but you really did equate pooping with sex. You directly did that when you said that "defecating where one eats" meant "having sex with a member of your crew." On its own that's uncomfortable; beyond that it's downright ugly.
Mod Edit: language
Yes, because his frame of reference for how women should behave was entirely based on his needs/wants. You can't call a woman a "whore" as he does repeatedly throughout the series without also examining their material needs (Well, you can but that casts you as the villain.) Your framing of this...