Hussar
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Hussar your experience varies from mine
Heh, rather obviously.
But, that's the point. At no point am I trying to claim that my experience is universal or indicative of any sort of norm of play. OTOH, you have repeatedly claimed, as again in the post two above this one, that your experiences are universal and "the way it was done" even in the face of people telling you specifically that they didn't do it this way.
Look, this is Enworld. By demographic, we trend in our 40s. This has been shown in poll after Enworld poll. Those of us who take the time to post, by and large, started gaming decades ago. My current group of seven players (including myself) has pushing 150 years of gaming experience between us. And, we're from all over North America, so our experiences have all been quite different.
Granted our play styles tend to mesh well, so, for the first time in a long time, I've got a very stable group. Makes me very happy. But, again, I would never try to claim that our experiences are universal. It would help the conversation immensely if you would stop.