rjdafoe, if they had a valid point - I would love to hear it.I gave 4e a try...and continue to try it for my friends sake,
We have a person in our group that is the same as you. To us, his arguments make no sense whatso ever.

I encourage you to do what we did if you would like to continue to game with friends - let them play their D&D every 2 weeks, and on the other weeks you join in a different game - one you and they enjoy.
In the long run, it will save your relationship with your friends.