I have never seen any group allow a spell caster to know instantly that someone is casting a spell, weave, there is no weave
Visual clues that a caster is casting can be masked by trying to hide any signs of casting; DC "Sleight of Hands" or "Deception" vs Perception checks
magic items use does not require a Concentration check, cannot be stopped by the Counterspell therefore cannot be stopped by the Ready Action Reaction Arrow therefore the Ready Action would be wasted, it would be your choose to do the ready action and try to stop casters casting
Time Stop is a Verbal only spell and can be hard for the attacker to spot, hard DC for Perception, speak the words softly and carry a big stick
a correctly worded wish could take some time to cast during your action but would be hard to spot, verbal only, DC check to spot if the spell caster is not trying to hide the casting
and someone of that level would be very skilled with the use of magic - Improved Invisibility or even more powerful effects could hinder the Reaction Attack
initiate spell casting cannot be stopped by Counterspell