A Respect Scenario To Consider

[Diamond Cross]

So let's say a member of your party is named Julian Chase. Along the way you get in the habit of calling him Chase.

He doesn't like it. He gets really upset with you. Then one day he shoves you against a wall and puts a dagger to your throat and says:

"Stop calling me that. In my culture it is considered extremely rude to call somebody by their last name, and only close friends are allowed to do so. You have not earned my friendship yet, so call me by my first name."

So, do you show him respect and back down and not call him by his last name or do you threaten him in someway and not show him any respect at all and risk never earning his friendship?

 

[Nagol]

Question 1: How does the other player feel?

If the other player has no strong preference, Question 2: What's my character like?

 

[Dice4Hire]

How does this have anything to do with RPGs?

 

[Cyronax]

I think the real question is what is his Intimidate modifier?

C.I.D.

 

[Umbran]

So, do you show him respect and back down and not call him by his last name or do you threaten him in someway and not show him any respect at all and risk never earning his friendship?

I am assuming you're speaking of game characters, and not real people.

That depends.

Did you already know that, and ignore it? Has he been telling you this all along, and you ignored his requests, or did this come out of the blue?

it then also depends on what character I'm playing. I play characters that do things I, personally, would not do in the real world.

 

[Ed_Laprade]

I voted 'back down', but if he'd been badgering me to stop calling him that it would never have gone that far in the first place.

 

[anest1s]

But if he ever needed me too much I would reply;"No, Julian" and let him die

 

[The Shaman]

"Stop calling me that. In my culture it is considered extremely rude to call somebody by their last name, and only close friends are allowed to do so. You have not earned my friendship yet, so call me by my first name."

[hulka] "Lighten up, Francis." [/hulka]


Is this really the kind of stuff that comes up in your game?

 

[Diamond Cross]

I am assuming you're speaking of game characters, and not real people.

That depends.

Did you already know that, and ignore it? Has he been telling you this all along, and you ignored his requests, or did this come out of the blue?

it then also depends on what character I'm playing. I play characters that do things I, personally, would not do in the real world.

Yes, in game characters.

Didn't know that, hasn't been telling you this.

 

[engrishonly]

If I'm doing it to antagonize, then it's been done for character reasons, and I don't back down.

There's no stolen magic sword, no theft of property, no broken trust between players (presumably). This is precisely the kind of cool character interaction we should have at the table because blind cooperation doesn't necessarily make for better roleplaying.

However, if it's not really the type of group where character drama needs to bubble out of play (and I am referring to a character issue rather than player issue), then it's something the group & DM should discuss before proceeding.