crazy_monkey1956
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Whizbang Dustyboots said:I think B will come sooner than A, based on my high school and college experiences.
This is a thread derail, but since you brought it up, it brings up an interesting point:
Let's say your oldest child is 16 years old and calls from what you thought would be a party with no alcohol. Everyone at the party is too drunk to drive and he or she wants to come home, since they're not comfortable there. Are you calling the cops at that point, or going to pick him or her up? If he or she thinks you're going to call the cops, does that increase the odds of getting in the car with a drunken teenaged driver instead?
Kids are going to experiment with this stuff, or at least be curious about it. I'm not sure an absolutist stance prepares them for the situations they'll find themselves in.
Again, the wording is a bit...off. I'm not a complete absolutist in this regard as I will take into account circumstances and they know this. In the above scenario, I would go get them and applaud them for having the wisdom to not get in the car with someone under the influence. I would also have some pretty harsh words for them if they did drink themselves and not allow them to go to another party at that person's house.
As with all things, it is a matter of degree. If I ever found illegal drugs on their person or in their rooms, I would take them straight to the police and make them face the consequences...I also profoundly hope that never happens because it will mean that I've failed in one of my goals as a parent.