Can't game at your own house?

[IcyCool]

Really, this is like having an all-day party every couple of weeks that the other guy isn't invited to.

Actually, it sounds more like having an all-day party every couple of weeks that the other guy was invited to, but isn't interested. They aren't excluding him. He's not interested in it, so he's excluding himself.

 

[Rykion]

Actually, it sounds more like having an all-day party every couple of weeks that the other guy was invited to, but isn't interested. They aren't excluding him. He's not interested in it, so he's excluding himself.

In which case, it is still proper to ask the roommate's permission, and limit the activity to when the roommate feels it is OK. Allowing someone 5 hours on a weekend day to hold an event that prevents the use of the living room is very reasonable on the part of the roommate.

The best advice is to find somewhere else to game, or see if the roommate is cool with getting cable in his bedroom in exchange for allowing 2 full Saturdays of gaming.

 

[IcyCool]

In which case, it is still proper to ask the roommate's permission, and limit the activity to when the roommate feels it is OK. Allowing someone 5 hours on a weekend day to hold an event that prevents the use of the living room is very reasonable on the part of the roommate.

True, but depending on how long the club friends come over and party every friday, permission should be asked for that as well.

 

[Rykion]

True, but depending on how long the club friends come over and party every friday, permission should be asked for that as well.

Oryan77 has said that they haven't been over much in the last year. It also sounds more like people coming over and hanging out for a few hours rather than a real party. Oryan77 was welcome to stay in the room, and he didn't mention them kicking him off the TV or anything like that. I agree that if the roommate is holding events in the apartment that monopolize the living area he should grant the same to Oryan77.

 

[werk]

Can't just move to the bedroom at 5pm? Makes it cozy

 

[genshou]

My gf and I aren't getting a place together because she wants to wait until we're married to "officially" be living together. She just graduated from college and is staying with me temporarily while she found a job & new home. Her parents don't know she is living with me & if they did, I wouldn't be typing this right now

Good for her! There are too few nowadays who hold to those kinds of ideals.

I'm so grateful that I only almost ended up in one of those situations. She and I were not meant for each other, and I think things would have ended up very bad if we'd lived together. My current girlfriend lives 500 miles away, and our relationship is a lot more rock-solid than I think it would be if we were living together. "Absence makes the heart grow fonder" is the old maxim, and I fully believe it's true. That doesn't mean I'm happy about the degree of absence, though...

As to your roommate, he is being unreasonable, but for a valid reason. That doesn't seem to make any sense, I know. But it does. Trust me. Anyway, the point is, if you try to change his mind, you'll just end up butting horns, whether heatedly or not. It's not worth moving out over, and gaming is something that I'm assuming isn't everything of import in your life. Why not reduce the in-game time (ie, not including social chatting time after the session) to 4 hours a night, 1pm-5pm, 3 times a month? That's 12 hours of gaming a month, 12 hours of socially excluding him within his own living space. That isn't unreasonable at all, especially if you clear the date ahead of time.

Oh, and sorry for not offering my own advice (which was probably better at the time) when the thread was younger. I was too busy betting on whether or not it would be closed before it got to page 3.

 

[DragonLancer]

Heres a question I don't think I've seen asked... is the apartment yours, or do you rent it and he then sub-rents?

If the apartment is yours then you have the say of what goes on. I would simply tell him that the game is once or twice a month and thats it. He has the rest of the month to chill out on the sofa in front of the TV. Go with the offer of paying for the extra cable TV in his room so that he doesn't miss anything he wants to watch.

If after that he still moans then he is being extremely unreasonable, and you need to have stronger words with him. If you back down even a little bit, he'll just push more and more.

 

[KenM]

Good point, it also depends on if only one of you or both of your names are on the lease/ rental agreement.

 

[skinnydwarf]

Assuming a 30 day month and 24 hours a day, have you considered refunding him 18/720th s of his share of the rent? That buys off the time he feels deprived of... Just another option to throw out there, and it's still probably cheaper than a hotel.

As I was reading the first post I was thinking "man, that guy sure is a jerk." But I thought about it more, and I'm not as convinced. That being said, I think his saying "you must work around my schedule, and if it changes, you must work around my schedule" is a little ridiculous.

To play Devil's Advocate, I don't think the above post accurately represents the situation. The numbers are good. But you have to consider some other factors:

Most people work during the day on weekdays, and therefore are not using the apartment then. The roommate is probably not concerned about lost time so much as lost *weekend* time. There are 8 weekend days a month. A lot of people get up around 10-12 on weekends, and go to sleep 10-11. Assuming 2 gamedays a month, the game is taking up about 2/8 (1/4) of his time he would be expected to be able to use the living room on the weekend.

Moreover, a lot of cool tv shows/sporting events are on during prime time during the weekend. The roommate probably feels he is missing out on these. That being said, I think he is being a little silly refusing to allow you to change the cable to his room. Oryan77, have you asked him why he is so adamant about not doing that? If you can work around that, you might be able to resolve your problem a little more easily. On the other hand, if his problem is "darn't, it's my apartment and I have a right to use that room, I'm taking a stand," you might be in for more trouble.

 

[egomann]

I have kind of a similar situation. My apartment is kind of small, and my Wife tells me she does not mind us playing. However I know it does bother her at least a little bit. She can't watch TV in the living room, she cant do laundry because the apartment gets too hot. She just gets stuck in the bedroom.

Does your apartment complex have a Clubhouse? Ours does and it has a Stove, Microwave, and a Fridge with an Ice Maker. They normally charge 50$ to use it, but I worked out a deal with my landlady. Once she saw that we usually left the place cleaner than we found it, and we never had any troubles she cut me a deal. She only charges us 10$ a week to use the clubhouse. If someone else wants to rent it out on our day, and pay the full price she calls us and lets us know we can't use it that week, but other than that we are there every Sunday night. It works out great. There are no distractions and plenty of room for us all.