Can't game at your own house?

[ThirdWizard]

Would it be out of the question to let him watch TV and sit in the living room while you play? Would this be acceptable for him?

I play my best friend's house, who is married and has an almost two year old. The conditions I'm used to are much more invasive than a roomate watching TV, and we've learned to live with it. I don't know if it's an option for you, but I thought I'd throw it out. That way he could continue to do his thing while you continue to do yours.

 

[was]

Does Stanford have any gaming clubs? If they do, maybe your whole group could join and they could help to find you a place to play. Paying club dues is a lot cheaper than a hotel.

 

[Oryan77]

Would it be out of the question to let him watch TV and sit in the living room while you play? Would this be acceptable for him?

Our tv is in a spot where it be just be too distracting for both him watching tv and us playing D&D. We also have a really hard time focusing on the game when there's a tv or lyrical music being played.

Does Stanford have any gaming clubs? If they do, maybe your whole group could join and they could help to find you a place to play. Paying club dues is a lot cheaper than a hotel.

I think Stanford does. I tried looking into it but I couldn't find anything on their website during break. I would also assume that you'd need to be a student, and I'm an employee :\

 

[JRRNeiklot]

Edit: Please don't recommend violence, thank you. --Dinkeldog

 

[ssampier]

In my experience, roommates can range from great friendships to horrible enemies (and I have experienced both in my short adult lifespan). I empathize with your roommate simply because I'm a private person and I like my space, too. Two bedroom apartments can be mighty cramped. From his perpective he seen four people taking over the already crowded living room, sitting, talking, and eating for nine hours. He's trapped in his room for these nine-hours. If I wasn't a gamer, I'd be annoyed, too.

My big concern is that he's not willing to compromise based upon your comments that you should game when he's out of town. And that you should adjust according to his schedule. My thoughts are not bother with the hotel room, simply because in terms of "game theory", he wins, you lose. He gets what he wants, you don't; he doesn't have to give up anything to "win", either.

My compromise is that you game until 9 one day a month and the other game day a month give him space at 5 pm like he wants. You give up your four hours of gaming one night a month and you get your other night for full gaming, then he can either leave or "deal with it" one night a month.

Other alternatives:

* get a new roommate, he moves out
* you move out, getting a single bedroom, or find a new roommate

I think you need to work on these "little issues" since they tend to blow-up at the worst times and places. It's also not fair to you to have you physically go elsewhere since it's your apartment as well, but it's also not fair to completely take over the living room, since it's his apartment, too.

 

[Angel Tarragon]

I'm with Arnwyn on this.

 

[Zakath429]

My group and I play two saturdays a month also at my house. We play from 3PM til ? on many occasions. We also tend to get loud. Our group plays at my house for each session and it works out just fine, my wife, though she does not play herself, loves the idea of a house full of 12 (yes I said tewelve people) having fun.

As for your problem, if your roomate has a problem with compromise and reaching an agreement with you, then it is my opinion that you get a new roomate.

 

[KenM]

I'm assuming the room mate works during the week. If i was him, I'd be a little PO'ed that on two of the 8 days off he has a month, he basically is stuck in his room all day. That would stress me out, too.

 

[farscapesg1]

I'm assuming the room mate works during the week. If i was him, I'd be a little PO'ed that on two of the 8 days off he has a month, he basically is stuck in his room all day. That would stress me out, too.

What about the OP who was okay with the roommate having friends over until 11 and then going out clubbing? I know I would be more irritated about people being over after 10 O'clock drinking, watching tv, being loud, etc. (I've always been a person that likes a lot of sleep and went to be early, even in college).

Being roommates is about compromises. Having a roommate that says "you play by my schedule, and change it according to my likeing" isn't compromising. They both have the apartment and he doesn't deserve to sit around and veg anymore than the OP deserves to have friends over to game.

I see where he is coming from, and that is why I offered some suggestions for a compromise, but honestly, he doesn't have any more rights to the living room on that day than the OP. Since it sounds like they are both adults (at least in college), they should be able to sit down and come to a compromise without giving the roommate everything he wants (end by 5, play when I say you can, etc.).

 

[Godofredo]

kill your roommate....without mercy