Christmas Misery: the losers' thread

[Imret]

Anybody mind if I leap in here?
I admit it....Christmas itself isn't being terrible to me. I'm far from home, at my mother's...and she's been trying to stuff me stupid for about a week now. So, it's not all bad, other than she's very into the holiday while I find it hollow, commercial and lifeless. But that's not the key. It's everything that isn't this holiday that bites.

Lesse. Unemployed for...going on eight months because the job-related stress tried to kill me, and I'm still recovering from being almost unable to actually digest food. Go job! Over the course of these eight months, I've been pounding the pavement in search of something not absolutely loathsome as a job, and nobody's calling me back. Single for two and a half years straight, following the end of what I would say is the only serious relationship I've had in my quarter-century of life. After the new year it's back to my dad's for a time to get my feet back underneath me, but he seems to be convinced I'm still 10 and lack any capacity to run my own life. Recently, my gaming group collapsed, which also happened to represent my entire social circle. Okay, collapsed isn't accurate; I was exiled because apparently, despite being my age, their lives are still centered around high-school level bull excrement. Oh, and the girl out there who occupies most of my thoughts is now engaged...and he's about 180% of her age.

So, if I may close on an upnote (and all credit to Counting Crows for this one):

A long December and there's reason to believe, maybe this year will be better than the last.

So heads up, my company in misery. Eventually, we'll run out of oil and civilization will collapse. Anybody else feel a little better just getting it out there?

 

[MrFilthyIke]

I have a lot to be thankful for, but am bummed as my wife has the first week and a half off in over a year and I'm here...3pm till midnight at work. Worse, it's in res for an airline here in the US, and with Ohio and Indiana, etc crapped out under snow, it'll be BUSY. So, I'm missing her immensely, but I can empathise with AMG and RW, I've been there before. :\

 

[DungeonmasterCal]

Ehh...while my woes aren't nearly as severe as some of yours, here's my contribution.

My wife and I have lived separately for over 2 years now. We get along fine, even work at the same organization. But we've drifted apart, and even though we've talked about getting back together, that's not feasible. Our son wants to stay in the school he's been attending, which I don't blame him. This means they can't move back in with me. Her place is far too small for the three of us, and they don't allow pets of ANY kind, so I can't move there. Neither of us have the money (even together) to put down deposits for a new place. In fact, I wasn't able to even help buy gifts for our son this year.

My vehicle died 1 month ago today, and because of spotty credit, I've not been able to get another. So, I have to rely on rides to work (I can't ride with her, because we don't go in at the same time) and I almost never get to see our son because I don't have any transportation there. He's here right now, because she dropped him off for the afternoon while she finished shopping.

And to complicate things, an ex-gf from a very long time ago has recently contacted me, and now I realize I still have a lot of feelings for her. I'm not seeing her, of course, but she's made it obvious she wants to be with me. So now I have re-born feelings for another woman to deal with, on top of really wanting to reunite with my family.

I owe back taxes...a lot. And can't pay them. The IRS won't even let me work out an installment plan and insist I pay in a lump sum, so I'm constantly worried the gubment's MIB's will show up and drag me away for tax evasion. sigh...

S'anyway...over all, things could be a lot worse. But two years of not living in the same house as my son is taking a toll on me.

 

[Imret]

I dunno, Cal...I mean, some of us may have more issues, but a potential future involving U.S. Federal Pound-Me-In-The-(ahem) prison sounds like the peak of Suck Mountain.

Hmmmm. That's not actually helping, is it?

 

[DungeonmasterCal]

Oh great. Thanks.

 

[haiiro]

Ehh...while my woes aren't nearly as severe as some of yours, here's my contribution.

I'm impressed that you've managed to deal with that situation for two years -- with more lumps piling up over time, as well -- without going batsh*t. That says a lot about your character.

I wish I could say something that would help, but all I can think of is: Wow, that really sucks.

 

[Ankh-Morpork Guard]

Ehh...while my woes aren't nearly as severe as some of yours, here's my contribution.

Well, if you want it to be a competition, I'd say yours and Captain Howdy's are up there at the top. Mine's not nearly that bad thanks to the help of many wonderful people here on this board, haiiro included. Sadly, I don't think they can really help you out that much...

Though I have to say, ENWorld really is a great place. I can't believe I've been here posting for nearly two years. A very great family of strangers who are actually fairly good at listening to one another's troubles. We must be the only place like that on the net!

 

[Darkness]

I'm slightly ill so I'm surfing EN World instead of working on my games...

 

[DungeonmasterCal]

Thanks for the good vibes, everyone. I'm not asking for help at all. I got myself into this mess, and I suppose I'll eventually get myself out.

It helps that she and I get along as well as we do. In 14 years of marriage, we've never really even had a fight. We see each other every day at work, and our son is a huge source of pride for both of us (though at the moment he's about to get rolled in the snow... lol).

Again...thanks for the good words. But there are a lot of folks who have greater worries than I do.

 

[hiryuu]

I have no money, my parents are in Michigan, I live in a one bedroom apartment, my job involves vast hours in front of the computer here at home banging away at the keyboard, and the most social thing I've done this month is go play D&D for two hours at a friend's house.

But then, that's the way it always is for me. I try not to let it bother me.