Mustrum_Ridcully
Legend
That can't be true! 4E is all about combat!I think the point is that the Eladrin Courts don't go to war with eachother. They go to war with the Fomorians, or the Goblins, etc.
The Courts are more like political parties in a democracy--sometimes they work towards opposite goals, sometimes they work towards the same goal, sometimes there are rivalries between specific members of two different courts (or members of the same court) and bloodshed is generally discouraged.

I think that approach works for me. Fey conflicts definitely look more "political" than violent to me in nature, and I think it makes the Feywild more interesting, and emphasizes the otherworldly nature of the fey. You can't simple thing in good vs evil when entering the Feywild. You have to look careful whether you can trust someone (and how far), and who might be deceiving you, and be prepared for changing allegiances.
Of course, that doesn't remove the room for violence. It just means you will find for more "basic" reasons - being hunted as food, or just as a unwelcome trespasser or intruder.
The more war-like conflicts are with Goblins, Formians and intruders from other planes.