Bothered about LARPs
LARPs freak me out. The people who play them freak me out. I really don't get the appeal of them, though I can understand why some people like them. Keep in mind, my BEST FRIEND loves LARPs, and has been involved in several in the Berkeley CA area. More on that later.
I've tried a couple kinds of LARPs, and even tried to help design one at one time. I've attended a few SCA events, and a Renfaire or two. I own items that could be considered "garb". I have a lot of the White Wolf rpg books. (All for sale, btw, cheap). I've found a few things I like about all of those things. But what I don't like about those activities, are the kind of people they attract. It's ironic, and a little disappointing.
Ideally, I would have no problem with some like-minded people dressing up in costumes and getting together at some location and making wiggly finger gestures and pretending to be cool characters. It sounds fun. Soon though I realized it was freaky and wrong.
Almost every single person I have come into contact with involved in a LARP has some deep-seated serious mental problem that they use LARPs as an excuse to act out. And hey, I'm not exactly the pinnacle of mental wellness myself, no, but COME ON. I am talking to the point of seriously questioning some of these people's ability to remain free in society. Seriously freaky people, not just "odd" or "quirky" but PROFANELY DERANGED. The kind of people you do not want your kids, or pets, around. Not all of them, mind you, but a LOT of them. The majority, in my experience.
I'll site examples, assuming you dare to read on, and also list my personal reasons why LARP is not for me.
A couple instances that come to mind occurred when I wasn't directly involved in the LARP. One time, I was with a friend in a record store. A large chain record store in a mall. Back then, I was a lil more of an "edgy confused youth" and I like lil shiny trinkets (hey, who doesn't?). I had a Tremere clan symbol pin on my jacket. I think my friend did too, we just liked the symbol. Really, we were more Mage fans, but I digress... So we're minding our own buisness perusing the racks, when this grungy raggedly looking guy like appears from behind some shelves and starts doing some kind of hand gesture combind with praying or something. Me and my friend looked at each other and walked past him. Outside of the store, we were like "What the hell was that about?" and laughed it off. Then coming out the the bookstore next door, I catch sight of the same guy with a couple others like watching us. We got in my car and drove off. Later, when I told another friend about this, he said "Oh, that was the sign for (some protection spell or something). He was probably in a local LARP and thought you guys were too. You probably wandered into agame, or some LARP groups play all the time nonstop. They're all over. " We laughed about it, ("So, he was throwing goth gang signs?") but it weirded us out some too.
Another drive-by LARP instance happened when I was walking between two friend's houses (one of them the same guy that was with me in the record store) on a cold winter night out in far suburbia, where the houses are farther apart yet there's still alleyways and main streets alongside open fields and clumps of woods. Well, as we're passing this one house sort of set back from the road, all these black cloaked figures come running out from around back the house and start swirling towards us. Naturally, we freak right out. So I'm about ready to pull out every self-defense move combined with sheer freaking out crazyman fighting, when the lead figure pops off her hood and some girl with white paint on her face says something like "oh you're not Kevin" and they all go flittering back toward the house. We just stand there staring for a minute, then got the hell out of there. Later my friend told me one of them was holding a real looking knife. We laughed about that event too, but it sure as hell weirded us out.
And those were the times I wasn't involved in the LARP, experiencing them as an outsider. So, you could say that maybe since I wasn't involved and I didn't fully understand what was going on, my experiences were tainted. Or maybe these were just a couple isolated instances with "bad" LARPers. Well, so as not to have anyone think I have a closed mind, both the above events took place during a time when I had known about LARPs and had even participated in a couple.
The first LARP I ever tried was a mixed World of Darkness one. At the time I had been playing the rpgs, and this guy I knew was really into the whole thing and was running the LARP. Well, I found it boring as hell, and a little silly. It was a small one and not very involved, but I think it gave me a fair sampling of the genre. The plot was straigtforward, but the whole event seemed more an organized attempt to score with goth chicks than to play out a game. And you know, every story about a WoD LARP I have ever heard and every one I have been in has turned out to be, however convoluted and contrived, and organized attempt to score with chicks.
My experience with "boffer" LARPing was not as bad, but didn't make me want to put much time into that either. It was through IFGS, which has been mentioned in this thread, and admittedly, I think, it was a splinter group of IFGS or maybe a small faction trying to get started in this area. I went to a couple of the meetings where they explained the rules and combat systems. Right off I thought it would be difficult to execute but it sounded fun. I noticed a lot of the other players were males younger than me, but there were a few females in the group too. The first game was a big combat scenario. It was ridiculous. Basically, it involved a lot of guys in their late teens and early 20's trying to protect and impress a couple young girls while at the same time beat on each other with foam swords. All the while shouting out numbers. Now, I'm a big guy, and I guess I can strike an imposing figure, but I don't really know.. for whatever reason, a lot of these guys sought me out to try and pummel me with their foam swords, but when I whack one of them back, he freaks out about me hitting too hard. There was a fight there about anotehr guy bending someone's foam sword. It was a mess, in the end, and despite the guy in charge being a pretty well-meaning guy, I didn't go back. I figure if I wanted to impress underage girls by demonstrating my mock prowess, I could find another venue.
I mentioned before that my best friend likes LARPs. He's played in a WoD LARP in the Berkeley area (I think right on the college campus) quite a bit. He would tell me about it from time to time. Keeping in mind that he LOVES LARPs and he's my best friend, more dear to me than a brother, know that I worried for him greatly. He told me how a typical game went. Apparently, there were some freaks in his group, and they tried to edge them out, but more would always take their place. He describe some behaviours that I know made him cringe, but he has a bad habit of trying to see the best in people, so I know that he was glazing over some of the more disturbing details. He told me about some of these people would dress all the time in their LARP costumes, and always be playing the game. Honestly, it sounded like a cult. He never got so into it (I don't think) that he ever did anything really whacky, but it was obvious that he had become involved with people who were scary, troubled people. He quit the one group because it got to be too much for him even. The last I heard he was not currently playing in any LARP. Come to think of it, I haven't heard rom him in a while... so maybe they sucked him back in.
So those are my main reasons why LARPs freak me out. Mostly, it's the people who play. LARPing is kind of ironic, because it's the kind of thing that most gives gaming a bad name. Acting out like that. It's really one thing sitting around a table with dice and figures, or even dressing up at a Con and playing, but it's defiantely a weird weird thing in a weird hobby anyway. Sure, there are freaks in tabletop games, but a lot of those I have met that are freaky gamers are ALSO LARPers. Even my friend who is an actor (I mean an actual, paid professional actor, and also a gamer) thinks LARPing is weird. Maybe, I dunno, maybe it's just the appeal of the whole thing. I can see how it is appealing to some. On the other hand, and moreso, I can see where it is an activity that excuses and even invites the kind of behaviour that is just not acceptable in polite society. I think it's akin to "slash fiction", Hentai, and the whole "furry" movement in it's appeal and attraction to people who have serious mental issues.
No, not ALL LARPers and horrid freaks, but the very act of LARPing is flypaper for freaks. Does that mean it should never be done? No. With common sense, thoughtfulness, and COMMON SENSE, I'm sure it can be as fun and acceptable as sit-down role-playing. But I don't like it.