Does your spouse/significant other game with you?

[Silver Moon]

Kriskrafts and I were both gamers, in both other groups and my long-time weekly campaign, long before we ever became a couple. After we got married we began going to gaming conventions together and met lots of wonderful people. We continue to both be active gamers and are now introducing our children to the hobby. She's is also an excellent DM and is running our current module (which reminds me, I'm two games behind in posting to my "Story Hour").

 

[jeffers]

The girlfriend...

... was playing long before we met, and retired long before we started dating. But... she saw me buying up new 5th Edition Champions books and yesterday was her first game in ... oh... 3 years?

 

[Theron]

The Missus had gamed with a boyfriend in college a bit, but not seriously though she was definitely gaming-compatible (we met in the SCA). She's a regular part of my group, although she detests fantasy, which limits our options a wee bit (just came off a three year supers game and are currently becalmed in the dreaded Doldrums of What's Next?.

 

[Achan hiArusa]

Option Missing

You're missing the "Significant Other, what Significant Other?" category. Boy my life is sad.

 

[Queen_Dopplepopolis]

I'm totally on board with that thought. I love to game and I hate spending time away from my wife, and I'm really glad I don't have to pick. I was actually GMing a game when I met my wife, as our group had gotten kicked out of our normal haunts and we wound up playing in a kitchen in a college dorm. She lived there, and came in to fix a snack.

She had gamed before that, and in spite of finding me immediately anoying (for stealing her kitchen) she eventually started gaming with us. A few months later we were dating, and now we are married with two kids. And yes, both kids have their own sets of dice. The giant ones are perfect for the 9 month old, as they are in theory too big to choke on.

*big smile*

Stories about giving children their first dice/PHB always kinda make me tear up... make me wanna get all motherly...

At GenCon, the woman that ran the Gamers and Geek Girls Seminar said that her husband designed really basic character sheets for their kids... and, their daughters--one as young as three-- are actually able to play...

Little nerds are SO CUTE!

 

[MerakSpielman]

I have, over the course of our marriage, gotten my wife interested in D&D AND violent, action-oriented computer games.

I'm so proud of her I could almost cry.

 

[Wisdom Penalty]

...note that a good marriage is definitely one where both partners have some stuff that they do on their own.

Agreed. Though this 'stuff' doesn't have to be gaming, it is in my case.

And - you know what? - I'm glad.

I suppose I'm one of the very few on these boards that actually appreciates the fact my wife doesn't want to game. It makes it easier for me to call myself a nerd, without worrying that I'm casting my wife in the same light.

So, for me:

Raising kids, family vacations, movies, dinners, life - My wife.

Sitting around a table and rolling dice - My overweight, goateed friends.



W.P.

 

[Treebore]

My wife and I met in a game we both played in. We got married a month later, or was it two months? Anyway, about 4 years after we got married she had "grown out of" playing, but I still loved it. It got to the big argument of where I had to quit. I told her there is the door. We have been married almost 14 years now. I game Fridays and Saturdays from 6:30 to whenever. My wife doesn't. She writes her books or watches a married couples kids while we game, depending.

We didn't know married life could be so good.

 

[Steel_Wind]

OK, A poll like that with those limited responses - I refuse!! to answer.

It's either a yes = bliss, yes = doom or
no - doom doom doom - not gonna happen.

Nowhere in that list of choices was there room for "Not yet" followed by expressions of unbridled optomism and unrealistic expectations. Seeing as we are talking about a spouse, unbridled optomism and unrealistic expectations are almost prerequisites to the discussion, don't ya think?

A year ago? I would have said "probably no". However....

A - She's always loved Star Wars and Star Trek
B - Dune has emerged as her favorite novel series
C - She has always been a console game fan and now has become a computer game fas as well
D - She played KotOR about 8 times, then joined a FAN fiction group and was running that fan fic group for a while; After playing through the Xbox version more times than anyone should - she pre-ordered the PC version of KotOR as well and did it all over again a few times,
E - She subsequently became addicted to Lineage II, is a clan leader and is now MMORPGing about ALWAYS it seems...

So - given that as a foundation to build on, don't you think I got a >>chance<< to make this work?

My answer: "Not yet - but I'm hoping."

 

[WanderingMonster]

I introduced my wife to roleplaying, and once she figured out that I would grow out of it, she decided to embrace it. She now plays, though I think if I were to stop, she'd stop too.