The reason no one is agreeing with you even though you think you are making good arguments is because they are reading between the lines of what you write.Aria Silverhands said:I keep repeating it because it's a problem. Its not something you should like. The DM has to have control over what is allowed in their campaign. Period. They can listen to player suggestions and think it over, but the players should not ever expect to get their way all the time, like it seems the PHB is being written for 4th edition. Every article and excerpt I've read about the phb keeps pointing to player entitlement and it's bullcrap. I don't want my campaigns ruined and I'm sick of the rulebooks making me out to be the villain.
Frankly, you seem to view the world through a very crabbed lens. You describe in your posts a situation where you, the DM, has put sweat, blood and tears into creating a campaign. And then along come these players, these snot nosed players, and insist that they are entitled to things that you did not include in your campaign. Soon, a personality conflict ensues, which could have been avoided had only the rulebook more clearly spelled out your authority.
Meanwhile, the rest of us are experienced players and dungeon masters, and we've rarely encountered this problem. In general, if a dungeon master makes a restriction, players accept it. If the restriction turns out later to have been pointless or to have unbalancing effects, the players will lose confidence in the DM. A good DM avoids that problem by not making pointless or unbalancing restrictions. Its a path that many of us have tread, and not found to be a particularly difficult course.
Ever had a conversation with a guy who insists that all women want to date "bad boy" types, and they all ignore "nice guys" like him? And in the course of the conversation, it becomes clear that he's really, deeply resentful about this, and harbors an awful lot of ill will towards women in general? I've had that conversation, and I can tell you that you start to think that maybe the problem isn't that women don't recognize his "nice guy" attributes, but rather that he hasn't got "nice guy" attributes. That maybe what he interprets as women failing to appreciate his nice guy nature is more women fleeing from his bitterness.
That's what you're encountering in this thread. You seem to harbor an awful lot of ill will towards your players. You seem to denigrate them, and attribute to them a sense of entitlement while simultaneously displaying the same sense of entitlement. People are picking up on this in your posts, and reacting to you accordingly.