Nolite te bastardes carborundum. (My latin is, well, pretty much non-existent, so that's probably wrong, but the sentiment's there) Hang in there. Sorry to hear about the bad month. It's almost the weekend: here's hoping you get to relax a little, get some rest, heal. Good luck to you and your wife, and peace to the family and friends of your acquaintance.
Warrior Poet